Paxrax25 Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 So im a 16 year old dude and i have bad anxiety so i worry about stuff like crazy and lately ive been worried about being gay or turning gay. And i just want some advice and opinions from people who are gay or asexual on what they think i am and maybe help me get past this and btw i have nothing against it my aunts are lesbian and love them to death. So my whole life ive only liked and loved girls like when i was 4 i had my first kiss with this girl qnd i still remember it so it had to of been amazing haha and i kissed multiple girls as a kid and always would fall in love with girls and in the middle school i had tons of gf that i was obsessed with would think about all day and make songs about etc and i never once did that with a guy or had any romantic feelings with a guy i mean ive noticed that dudes are handsom or good looking and ive looked up to dudes and wanted yo be like them look like them etc but never u know like wanting to kiss then or something. And ive always been super nervous around pretty girls and even worse now like i mumble and im just not myself haha. And now on the sexual side of things. Ever since around 6th grade ive been like staring at girls butts and thinking like damb and getting hard and also looking at girls cleavages and getting hard and dreaming of blowjobs etc and also having sex with them. And i havent had alot of sexual moments because im a shy guy but ive grinded with a girl 2 times at partys and it was the best thing i was hard and like yaaa loved it. And one last thing is, is it normal for me to think vaginas look weird and they dont really turn me on but like i love the female body and i think theyre pussys are pretty but its weird to me a little when they spread em open and shit haha maybe its cause im a virgin or somethin that i think sometimes theyre a little disturbing but ive been turned on by girls and been so in love with girls multiple times and everytime i go out in public and see a hot girl i like stare at her ass and stuff like dat. Dis was very hard for me to write about cuz its personal but please give honest opinions and advice on what u think i am thank you do much!!! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Hanah Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 You are probably straight, give it time to sort out your feelings. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
move-the-stars-for-no-one Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 Look Paxrax you're looking in the wrong place. You're young. You're straight. And you are definitely straight. You shouldn't have to worry about being weirded out by genitalia it's normal. But also have to stop in the chat. We answered you to the best of our comfort levels. No more is needed than that. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sinead Buckley Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 Well, really it's only up to you to truly decide what your own sexuality is. From what you've described you seem heterosexual, but I'm sure there are instances in your life that you feel might have contradicted that. The best advice I can give you is to do what makes you comfortable and what feels right to you. You wouldn't be doing yourself any favors if you tried to fit a label that you don't feel completely right in. For me finally coming to the conclusion that I was asexual actually had this sensation of weight lifting off of me. And, no matter what sexuality you have, don't feel ashamed of it! If you are heterosexual, remember that there are all kinds of variations on that sexual spectrum, you don't need to ascribe to a certain stereotype of what heterosexuality is. Good luck! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BreakingBanjo Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 Based on your explicit and detailed analysis of your past attractions to women (!), I would agree that you're most likely straight. That said, you should keep in mind that sexuality is a broad and varied spectrum; homosexuality is not a switch that's flicked to the "on" position the moment you experience homoromantic thoughts. It also occurs to me that you're very young, and may not yet have settled on your individual brand of sexuality (which is perfect fine and normal). Keep an open mind, keep exploring and keep asking questions of yourself and your commmunity. In the end, only you can decide on the labels you want to adopt, if adopting labels is important to you. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Corretto Posted July 14, 2014 Share Posted July 14, 2014 I don't know where-you're-at Paxrax25...and I doubt I'll ever know! You're going to get a load of 'labels' if hang around this forum and you may not be too keen on them. I don't think I've ever heard of such a hyped-up, hetero-sexually normative guy; barely in his mid-teens, and looking for a permanent tag to stick on himself. Identifying your sexual orientation can be a lengthy, 'fluid', process...and it appears, to me anyway, you've shot-down 90% of your options while still pubescent! If I was you: I'd abandon the label-seeking, avoid offending any young women you meet, and...[i don't know] get on with school-work or get a job! Good Luck...CiaO Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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