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Anyone else find being called "hot" insulting?


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I haven't been called "hot" or "cute" to my face yet by anyone. I probably wouldn't mind if it's a girl I happen to like.

But God help anyone who calls we a "stud". :evil:

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I generally find such 'compliments' degrading. My family always criticise me for it because it's a 'compliment', but I don't find it so. To me I'm being looked at in a way I do not wish to be looked at. Usually when someone pays that sort of attention to me, afterwards I will go through a period of dressing boyish or plainly, so as to avoid any further unwanted attention. When I'm with my family I'm forced to accept the compliments with a polite smile and a thank you, but when I'm alone they get nothing but cold stares to make it clear their attention is not welcome. My family think I'm cold for that, and it's true, but why give the wrong impression? I'll be polite in front of them, but if I'm by myself I won't even risk it.

That said, I've only had those words from people I'm uninterested in. I don't know how I'd react if someone I actually liked said it to me. I could have an entirely different view then. Who knows? :)

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I find it quite insulting. From my experience, whenever someone refers to me as "hot", they' re looking at me in a sexual light. Which is then always followed by obvious flirting, incessantly mentioning why I should date and/or sleep with them, etc.

I usually dismiss all compliments with a quick "thanks" and go back to whatever I was doing.

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I dislike it, and how can someone be "hot" anyway apart from internal temperature :|

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Oh my.... I was just looking for a place to post a similar topic. I'm glad I found this!!! okay, this is my side.

I don't like being called cute, sexy, hot, beautiful etc. It gives me the creeps. Especially from strangers. It really bugs me, because it's like, "oh, you're judging me based off my looks whether or not you want to talk to me? that's....... childish." Unless you're my friend and I know you.... I don't care. But to have a stranger come up "oh wow. look at you." it just gives me the vibes that people just want to have sex with me (and that has been the case many times, before I found out what I am has a label) so I automatically have a negative association with it.

Like, if I am online and I see someone, I look at other things. Animals, glasses, clothing hair style. I've had this conversation with many people before, and they fight that i'm being just as the other people by looking at their, let's say curly hair and wanting to talk to them because of it. But to me, I'm not judging someone off of their looks. I think their hair looks cool, I don't think that they are "attractive" so to say, so it really upsets me when people try to pick apart others logic.

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No, I don't, I find it rather confusing. I'm like "err...thank you, I think". It's probably because given that I'm asexual I can't quite comprehend the meaning of the word, who knows?

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Mycroft is Yourcroft

If they are pursuing me sexually or romantically I hate it.

If it is a friend saying it after I've gone to some effort to dress up or something I think it's nice of them.

If anyone uses it as a compliment more than once I get peeved (yes, thank you, I get it. Anything else about me worth complimenting? -_-)

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I do find it insulting because its just another way of saying "I'd fuck you in a heartbeat" and apparently I should find it as a honour that some douche want to fuck me.But I've accepted that sometimes people mean it as a compliment and you should gracefully accept it and then throw it out of your mind

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I strongly dislike how the word is used, yes. I have a twin brother who is constantly talking about how one of his many crushes is so "Hot" and to me she is pretty but using the word hot somehow seems insulting as if the person using the word only cares about the sexual attraction aspect of their short or long relationship. Not only that it makes you sound pretty idiotic using it in that scenario, or am I the only one who thinks this?

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I find it hilarious when a female calls me "hot" simply because in the grand scheme of things it means absolutely NOTHING. You're simply using 1 word to describe your assessment of another person, and whenever someone refers to me as hot I really don't know what to say back to them. It's the equivalent of licking an ice cream cone and then saying the word cold....it means nothing...or if someone shook my hand and said ONLY the word "soft". It's an extremely abstract and fragmented description of another human being which I find quite funny. Because it's the same way a toddler might describe something they find interesting, with one word and absolutely no context lol. I can't help but giggle whenever someone does that ahaha.

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