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Asexy Dragon

Hi, I'm new here, but I want to know if anyone else has been getting rude comments/oppression towards them for being asexual. Also, I'm writing a paper on asexuality, and oppression faced. Thank you!

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Since you have no responses yet I will start! I have not really come out yet, but despite that I still get rude comments when I'm in a group setting and the other people start doing that "who would you rather bang?" type game. Or the "look at her boobs/butt" game. I guess I don't play right, even when I'm trying to fake it haha. Go figure.

The few people I've come out to were all very supportive, but I can imagine a LOT of the "wut *blank stare*" and "were you sexually abused?" and "but you've had sex/girlfriends/one night stands/etc before" responses.

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Asexy Dragon

Since you have no responses yet I will start! I have not really come out yet, but despite that I still get rude comments when I'm in a group setting and the other people start doing that "who would you rather bang?" type game. Or the "look at her boobs/butt" game. I guess I don't play right, even when I'm trying to fake it haha. Go figure.

The few people I've come out to were all very supportive, but I can imagine a LOT of the "wut *blank stare*" and "were you sexually abused?" and "but you've had sex/girlfriends/one night stands/etc before" responses.

bahaha. yeah i've gotten the sexually abused, the "you're a prude", "you just can't get anyone", "it's a phase", "you're just depressed", "wow that's sad", "you'll find the right person", "you're just gay and dont want to admit it", "thats unnatural", "that's a weird fad", "wow what a nerd", and plenty...plenty...more.

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No one has probably known I'm asexual because I didn't know it back then and I wouldn't have told them even if I knew.

During upper elementary school I was made fun of and labeled as gay because most of the class had partners of the opposite sex and had already had sex at the age of 13-15 and I hadn't. I dated a boy that time but he wasn't in the same school and only saw him during freetime so no one ever saw us together. We broke up with him before highschool. In highschool I was labeled as gay again because I was one of the few ones who didn't have a partner.

My next boyfriend after highschool and nowadays ex as well argued about it many times. I kept repeating that I DO love him, and he didn't believe me because I wasn't overjoyed about having sex with him. "You don't enjoy sex with me or don't flirt with me! You never ask sex! It means you don't love me!"

Nowadays I haven't faced any oppression really, just odd looks and wonder. "HOW can you not want it?" "You haven't had sex in 4 years? HOW?" "I just told this funniest dirty joke of all time, how can you not be entertained?" "HOW? I'd die!"

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op·press

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verb (used with object)
1.
to burden with cruel or unjust impositions or restraints; subject to a burdensome or harsh exercise of authority or power: a people oppressed by totalitarianism.
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