abacct Posted July 8, 2014 Share Posted July 8, 2014 To make a long story short, ever since I was five years old I have been positively mesmerized with the idea of sex. I didn't even really learn what it was until fourth grade, but I've always had this idea about what it was. When I would play games one of the reoccurring topics that would happen would be adultery and pregnancy. Nowadays, I'm sort of known as this walking encyclopedia of sex facts and have been seriously interested in either being a sexologist or an obstetrician. And it's very strange, because I am a romance/sex-repulsed aromantic gray-a. I have a rather high libido but don't really ever feel the urge to have sex with anyone. My interest in myself having sex is nonexistent, but when it comes to the topic of sex and relationships I'm just fascinated. To be honest, sometimes I kind of feel like those aliens in that Twilight Zone episode that just sit back and watch the humans go hysterical. Romance and sex just seems so chaotic and I don't really understand its appeal, but I spend hours reading about it. It's just interesting. Are there any other aces like me? It seems like a lot are disinterested in these topics, but I'm so into talking about it my bisexual friend (who is uncomfortable talking about sex) jokes that we break all stereotypes when it comes to sexual orientation. After all, I'm mentally a sex-crazed asexual. I just don't feel the need to go out and do anything. Link to post Share on other sites
dalkey Posted July 8, 2014 Share Posted July 8, 2014 I have a sexual friend who knows I'm asexual and sex is practically the only thing we talk about. I'm like you, I don't want to actually have sex and I have a high libido, but the idea of sex and romance is really interesting for me. I don't identify as aromantic, but romance certainly doesn't come naturally to me. Even so I love talking about relationships and romance and sex, and learning about it. My friends always said that I was "straight as a board" because I'm always talking about sex and making perverted jokes, but in actuality, I just like talking about it and nothing more (and when I came out to the friend who said I was straight as a board, she was totally cool with it and understanding, it was great). Trust me, you're not alone in this. Some people are interested in sports, some are interested in books, and some are just interested in sex! It's just an area of interest and it doesn't make you any less of a romance/sex repulsed aromantic gray-a. Link to post Share on other sites
sapiogirl Posted July 10, 2014 Share Posted July 10, 2014 i am obsessed with human sexuality and the science of sex and attraction. so much so that i taught sex-ed while i was in grad school... i love discussing the topic. Link to post Share on other sites
Tessc Posted July 10, 2014 Share Posted July 10, 2014 Oh, believe me, you're not alone. I too had fantasies when I was a child (didn't know that was what they were until I was a teenager, though) about people I knew. Mine weren't about sex, really, more things I've come to identify as kinks I have. I talk sex with friends all the time as well, it's just something that's expected with my group of friends and it really doesn't bother me. I point out attractive people to the people I'm with and they rave about them until the next one comes along. It's a good system. :) And, yes, sexologist sounds fascinating: most aspects of human sexuality have interested me for years now. Link to post Share on other sites
Angeliss Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 I am definitely the same way. I experienced some hesitation here when I saw how many people were posting about how they didn't understand sex and it was just uninteresting. For me, I like knowing about it. I have a strange fascination with it, the same way some of my coworkers are gripped by stories and facts about serial killers. I think it's much the same. People who actively want sex have such an alien mindset to me that I must know how their minds work. (Not implying that sexuals are serial killers, just FYI.) Link to post Share on other sites
WhenSummersGone Posted July 11, 2014 Share Posted July 11, 2014 I've always been interested in it as well. I used to watch porn as a child and I still look at it here and there. It's entertaining to watch even though I don't feel like having sex myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Sinead Buckley Posted July 15, 2014 Share Posted July 15, 2014 Romance and sex just seems so chaotic and I don't really understand its appeal, but I spend hours reading about it. It's just interesting. I get what you mean completely! I'm obsessed with drawing nude people and I'm always being accused of being a perv, but I just think that nudity is pretty in a non-sexual way. I love the way nudity is depicted in fine art, because it all looks so natural and clean. Anyways I enjoy observing romance from a distance, but I don't want to be involved in any romantic scenarios at all. It just seems like a waste of time to me. Link to post Share on other sites
biace_inyourface Posted July 15, 2014 Share Posted July 15, 2014 One afternoon, when I was 6 or 7, I was watching Grease and there's that one scene with two characters making out in a car and I kept rewinding it and watching it over and over again. I had no idea then why it fascinated me so much but now I can look back and see that I've always been quite interested in anything sexual. Even now, I still have fantasies about things I would never want to actually participate in. I've taken multiple classes on human sexuality and sexual/gender identities is one of my favorite topics. There's a big difference between watching/learning about something and actually doing it. Link to post Share on other sites
pma01 Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 i love sex as well. reading about it watching it. i just dont feel a need to have it other than with myself. i also like and enjoy nonsexual nudity. and magazines of naked people men and women Link to post Share on other sites
Conscientious Ghost Posted August 26, 2014 Share Posted August 26, 2014 I think sex is fascinating without myself participating. I remember I accidentally stumbled upon a pornographic picture on Google image when I was seven years old. It's strange how flexible the human being can stretch, and how people around me are invested in losing their 'virginity' to pass the mileage stone of youth. It sounds funny... I'm interested in sex, but not that way. Link to post Share on other sites
kaitly Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 I've always been fascinated by sex, it was one of the things that really threw me when i started to wonder about my own sexuality (or asexuality). I'll read anything to do with sex, be it scientific article to romance novel. I've always just found it to be so tumultuous and exciting... but for other people, the idea of actually personally having sex with someone else seems questionable. I'm obsessed with drawing nude people and I'm always being accused of being a perv, but I just think that nudity is pretty in a non-sexual way. I love the way nudity is depicted in fine art, because it all looks so natural and clean. I'm the same! I was an art major in college and I was always most excited to draw from the models. My friends used to joke that I just wanted to look at naked people all day, but it never felt sexual to me. I just thought that the human body was beautiful. BUT I did have a fascination with instances where the artist and model shared an not so professional relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Ultima Posted September 2, 2014 Share Posted September 2, 2014 I like to think about sex as well and study it as a scientific curiosity. I also like to study women too. In high school, while most guys just talked to girls, I read books about how their bodies worked. I never really interacted with women in high school but I probably know more about women's bodies and how they work than most heterosexual men do. Link to post Share on other sites
prof mags Posted September 3, 2014 Share Posted September 3, 2014 i find it a very fascinating topic even though i myself am sex repulsed myself i think part of my interest in it comes from apart from my libido (which didnt really become a thing until i was around 16-18 which is when i found out what sex even was) i cannot really fathom its appeal i wont lie im interested in having sex to see what all the fuss about but its more akin to wondering what a particular food tastes like rather than a urge. I suppose i also hoped that understanding sex and the stuff to do with it would help me come to accept my own sexuality and physical reactions (havent had much success but a guy has gotta hope) Link to post Share on other sites
Enki Posted September 3, 2014 Share Posted September 3, 2014 You may say I'm a "mentally a sex-crazed" demisexual. :) I'm infinitely facinated by the physical, mental, social, cultural, and spiritual facets of sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Fllay Posted September 4, 2014 Share Posted September 4, 2014 Me too. It's really interesting, but I don't want to do it myself. Back in high school, my friends and classmates asked me tons of questions because I was the most knowledgeable between them even though I was (well, still am) a super virgin who never ever kissed. They even called me Madam (in the pimp sense) and Porn Queen, heh. I often thought random things about sex like "what if one of them slipped and hit their head during shower sex", "I wonder if porn cameraman ever hit with stray jizz", "what if someone farted during orgy" things like that haha Link to post Share on other sites
IAmAPurpleLewie Posted September 7, 2014 Share Posted September 7, 2014 I'm exactly the same way, which is why I really questioned my sexuality for so long. I always was the one who knew "so much" about sex. I considered studying sexology and always thought I must be really obsessed, which obviously means I can't be asexual. But I very quickly realized that though I was fascinated by the factual side of sex, my interest in having sex, or doing anything physical with someone totally turned me off. I thought it was so uninteresting and gross in my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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