stonehengegirl Posted March 28, 2015 Share Posted March 28, 2015 I stick up for myself now. I'm a lot less self-conscious. I'm much more blunt and snarky. I give advice more than I ask for it. If something is bothering me I actually tell people instead of just expecting them to pick up on it. Same here. I don't care anymore what people think of me. If I hear someone making comments that I find objectionable I'm more likely to tell them my opinion than I was when I was younger. Link to post Share on other sites
DigitalBookDust Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 I'm finding that in my 50s I'm no longer willing to compromise myself. I am who I am and I LIKE who I am! I dye my hair blue with aplomb, wear wildly coloured clothes, and love my vintage docs! Working at at the library leaves me free to indulge in all sorts of interesting styles, from hair colour to steampunk outfits! I'm definitely eccentric, obviously queer, and don't care who knows it! At the same time, I try to be kind and compassionate to those I encounter. I know what it feels like to struggle. But I have little patience for whining or for people who refuse to deal with their issues, esp. if they are adults. Once you get,say, into your thirties (I'll give you a good grace period), it's time to grow up and so what you need to do to be stable! Link to post Share on other sites
DexM Posted March 31, 2015 Author Share Posted March 31, 2015 I see so many people posting about how they can't stay up late anymore, and it honestly makes me giggle. I'm thrilled that as an adult, I can pick a career option that lets me work the hours I'm most comfortable. The only reason I get up before 10am is because my dogs need to go outside. There have been mornings where I take them outside, get them their breakfast, and then we all go back to bed until noon. And I'm still not late for work. I rarely get home from work before midnight, and I've never been one to settle down immediately afterwards. High school and college were hard for me in part because of their traditional hours. I can still stay up late, I still suffer the same, it's just I can take it a lot better. ^_^ My sleeping pattern is tragic, to say the least, and it has got worse in just the last six months. That morning hangover, where your eyes feel cold and sore, you can't quite see straight, and your head is still on the pillow while your body and legs are climbing out of bed, I deal with that a lot better. But I do prefer to take the weigh off of my feet when I get in, just that little bit quicker. Link to post Share on other sites
allrightalready Posted May 9, 2015 Share Posted May 9, 2015 my main things are memory oriented, when i was little i had a nearly eidetic memory but now i can't remember a thing so i write notes and have an appointment book for everything on the plus side i stand up for myself and do what is good for me also i am about to take a trip out of the country something i never would have done when i was younger Link to post Share on other sites
Glyn Posted June 1, 2015 Share Posted June 1, 2015 You won't of guessed it from my posts, but my sense of humour has become less rude. It's still is rude, but nowhere near as rude as how it was in my mid-twenties. I'm a lot more confident and secure in myself than when I was younger. But I put this largely down to depression in some parts of my life. When I wasn't suffering from depression, I spent my early-to-mid 20s in a couple of jobs that left me convinced I was a disgusting piece of scum, that I was deeply inferior to everyone and that I wasn't worthy to be around everyone else I worked with. But then I was made redundant, I returned to another job where I was surrounded by a good boss and even better friends who were incredibly supportive and stuck with me through thick and thin. In that job, I had finally gained back my self-worth and self-confidence, two things I lacked in my previous jobs. I'm also a lot more cautious over who I discuss my personal and sex life with. I also tend to tell close friends and family that I love them dearly or that I care for them. One of my biggest regrets in my life was that I never told Dad that I loved him when he was alive, and I'm promised myself to remind those who I am close to how much they mean to me. After all, when they've passed on - or when you've passed on - it's too late... Link to post Share on other sites
Autumn Sunrise Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 Thank you for sharing some of your life story, Glyn - I think that would help many people to feel more positive about themselves and their future. It makes me feel sad to think of anyone being in a job that made them feel like "a disgusting piece of scum" - that is just SO wrong!. Thank goodness you found a better job, with a good boss and friends who valued you for the person you really are. Never doubt that you are a good and worthwhile person - you have many friends, both "face to face" and on AVEN, to prove that "I'm promised myself to remind those who I am close to how much they mean to me. After all, when they've passed on - or when you've passed on - it's too late..." - one of life's greatest lessons, I think - thank you! Link to post Share on other sites
Karanna Posted June 15, 2015 Share Posted June 15, 2015 When I was in my teens and twenties even thirties I would not speak to any one, felt I was not good enough worried what others thought about me. But not any more, you take me as you see me or get lost. Thats my attatude now, I also talk to stranges in shops and if I want to wear the same dress for 6 days so what! I do not care if people frown at me for going so. Link to post Share on other sites
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