On being sex-repulsed

[Christinanc93]

I am about as sex repulsed as they come. I don't even like looking at babies because they make me think of their origin. Everyone hates me for it, but that's OK.

[girlinthesky]

I think it's great there are so many different types of asexuals, I don't think asexuality would be half as interesting as it is if there was just one definition of asexuality and the different labels of asexuals.

I don't really know what I am in terms of sex repulsed, or not. I am really not interested in sex or in what the genitls of the person look like (I personally think genitals are just as ugly as all the other parts of the human body....), but because I'm not used to seeing people naked, when I do, it's a bit of a shock. If you ask me, I think people look much better in clothing than they do when they're naked, one time when I saw a picture of someone who was naked I just couldn't stop thinking how much better they'd look in clothing. :lol:

I feel this way too, I really prefer people with clothing.

I feel like my brain can't even process anything remotely sexual, I can't picture anyone having genitalia, especially males, and I think I might be at least somewhat sex-repulsed.

[almondbutter]

This is so amazing to me. I'm pretty new to the whole AVEN and asexuality scene but the more I read the more it seem like a place where I identify. This whole thread is exactly what I feel - male genitalia is completely disgusting to me. If anyone watches Seinfeld and remembers when Jerry has that girlfriend who does things naked but doesn't want him to walk around naked - that's EXACTLY how I feel.

[Ace Griff]

lol (i'm laughing with you, not at you)

I'm super sex repulsed and I also get a little annoyed because of the stereotype too. Like, I feel like people don't take me seriously with just being asexual, sex repulsed is just gonna add more to their joke.

But well, there is nothing I can (or want to) do. I'm like this, that's just how it is.

I think we shouldn't be so annoyed by people who don't accept us.

And yeah, the thought of penises also makes me want to puke. lol

[New Strawberry 8]

Looking at sex from an asexual point of view, the whole act looks kind of ridiculous. I try not to think about it when I'm having sex with someone (I tend to just go to my happy place), but the grunting and moving around and everything is just odd, and it makes me wonder how something so weird can be the topic of so many thoughts. The after part where people just kind of fall down all tired always weirded me out the most. Like, I understand if you really put your heart and soul into any activity, it'll be tiring, but as someone who just wants to get it over with, I can never wait to get up and move on to doing anything else.

[deleted_account]

I'm not sure what it is really - I'm not sex-repulsed unless it seems like there's no escape from it, like at a dance club or when certain songs are playing on the radio. (Katy Perry's "birthday cake" song is the nastiest thing I've heard in a long time.) Or in some movies when the sex scenes are extremely graphic. Female moaning is the worst.

I've noticed over the years there's been a definite shift in my response to sexual material. I watch this old MTV cartoon "Downtown" sometimes, and the last time I watched it after realizing I was asexual, I noticed there were a ton of times while watching the series that I actually shouted "ewww" at the dialogue (it's a rather provocative show) and I felt so immature for that sort of response... but I still love the show, so wtf.

I skipped Gay Pride this year for much of the same reason. I love the gays, but it didn't seem like the place for me since the environment is often so sexually charged.

Also I hate masturbation. A well-meaning person gave the advice after a break-up that I should "just masturbate" and it was gross to hear that from someone, even if they meant well. I don't even like the thought of it. I do it when I have to, but usually I avoid it like the plague.

[Guest]

I'm the same, Fuzzi. In general I'm indifferent on sex but I can't imagine myself having it. Heterosexual sex can gross me out but I have no problem with gay men one. I really don't know why it turns me on.
I also don'\t like the idea of sex. Strange because I use to have sex fantasies but it's not a sex we can see in medias and so. It's a bit infantile and romantic. My sex fantasies look rather as emo girl ones :)
I don't think it's nothing wrong with being sex repulsed. In know that our over sexualized society require it for us because they have less people who can buy their products and ideas.

[FoxyMulder]

My feelings on sex vary, but most of the time I am in the sex repulsed camp. Most of the time I can't even watch a kissing scene in a movie without gagging.

[SnapeFan4Life]

I didn't even know what sex was or how it happened until right before I got married. O.o I love kissing and cuddling so that was great, but sex is just weird. I have never appreciated sexual humor, and when people go into graphic detail I see things in my head and it makes me sick. I had to dry heave the other day when someone started talking about stuff. Gross.

I was married 4 1/2 years and although I'm asexual, we had a sexual relationship (although it was *very* vanilla). I was never coerced or forced to do anything and my partner was very understanding. He passed away and I went through a lot of things before realizing that although I loved being with him, I don't want to be with anyone else like that.

Genitals are gross. I don't even look at mine. I just don't like naked bodies in general. (I tend to wear layers) I'm more grossed out by guys, though, I think.

(I tried masturbating a few times but it left me feeling depressed so apparently it's not for me)

I guess I fit the stereotype pretty well -- I'm sex-repulsed, genital-repulsed, dislike anything having to do with genitals/reproduction/sex, and hate that our society is saturated with naked people, sex, sexual humor, and this weird obsession with all things sexual. I don't get it.

Also when I hear sex jokes sometimes they go over my head and then I realize it later and say, "I Aced that..."

[ItsALongHardRoad]

Genitals for me aren't gross,but not really sexy either.They are tools made for a certain purpose.Many people who identify as hetero/homo/bisexual are not what I would call excited with the looks of them.I have a sex-obsessed male friend who finds vaginas utterly repulsive,he is very into breasts though.Funny thing because breasts are not supposed to be sexual.Ahh,the power of sexual imprinting of our society.

[SakuraMauToki]

I'm still torn about where I stand on this, but I like to think I fall into the sex repulsed camp. If anything sexual comes up, regardless of sex scenes in books or movies, I find myself grossed out, awkward and wanting none of it, which is funny because I used to write smut and read smut fanfictions before. Now, however, I want nothing to do with it.

[FoxyMulder]

I'm still torn about where I stand on this, but I like to think I fall into the sex repulsed camp. If anything sexual comes up, regardless of sex scenes in books or movies, I find myself grossed out, awkward and wanting none of it, which is funny because I used to write smut and read smut fanfictions before. Now, however, I want nothing to do with it.

There are times that I can handle smut (and I can apparently write it really well according to my friends), but I generally want nothing to do with it as well. It doesn't make a lot of sense how it can fluctuate like that, but it does.

[SakuraMauToki]

I'm still torn about where I stand on this, but I like to think I fall into the sex repulsed camp. If anything sexual comes up, regardless of sex scenes in books or movies, I find myself grossed out, awkward and wanting none of it, which is funny because I used to write smut and read smut fanfictions before. Now, however, I want nothing to do with it.

There are times that I can handle smut (and I can apparently write it really well according to my friends), but I generally want nothing to do with it as well. It doesn't make a lot of sense how it can fluctuate like that, but it does.

I tried to read smut recently for a favourite fictional character of mine, but I couldn't do it. I became too awkward and squicked by it.

I'm happy to know I'm not alone in this ;u;

[Mona Lisa]

I feel similarly to OP about having some repulsion, only I'm the opposite. Dicks are weird, sure, but I find them interesting or even silly, whereas the thought of female genitalia makes me terribly uncomfortable. I mean, they're just plain ugly and gross. And yes, I'm not happy about having one in my presence 24/7. I tolerate it out of familiarity. I don't blink an eye at gay male porn, but add a woman's privates, and ugh, I just can't. That's part of the reason I'm repulsed at the thought of myself involved in sex.

[nerdperson777]

I believe I'm sex-repulsed, but I'm also curious at the same time. I normally have the strongest bladder in the world, but once a sexual scene is heard or seen, nothing works anymore. Once I was on a 15 hour flight thinking, I could make the entire flight without using the bathroom. On the way back, the person next to me was watching something with sexual scenes and my eyes were too curiously glued to what's there. Okay, bladder control is gone. I often walk away from those situations if possible, but I can't exactly run away from a chair in an airplane. On another thread, I mentioned about my ex-roommate and her bed adventure. As long as no sex stuff involve me, I'm fine. But watching her in the other bed 5 feet away just terrified me.

Some days ago, my dad had a TV show on and walked off to do other stuff. I sat in front of the TV. Two women talking, absolutely normal. One starts mouthing the other's neck and undoing her dress. I thought wait what? I thought one was a mother and the one doing the stuff was friends with her son. The next scene was a girl on girl with fully visible nipples so I just left out of awkwardness. So I'm not entirely sure where I stand in this. I could've stayed there and watch lesbian erotica, destroying my bladder in the process, but instead I left to do less awkward things.

Dicks are weird to me too. Boobs, not so much. Woman privates, probably in the middle of them. But I usually try not to stay on an awkward webpage for too long because I always think someone's watching me.