Children?

[Soiled Melody]

I don't see it as selfish to want or have biological children. I personally have a genetic disease, though, so me having biological children is out.

As far as adopting children, I'm undecided. I'm still young, so I don't want children now, but possibly in the future. I do like kids. I'm well aware that I'm aromantic, and I'm not sure if I would want to raise kids if I'm by myself.

I am sorry to hear about your disease, I wish you happiness c:

Actually, I'm more repulsed by pregnancy and childbirth than I am about sex. However, I've always liked the idea of adoption (ever since elementary school) and I really want children, so my dream is to adopt two children in the future.

I guess it'll be really difficult though, because it's expensive, and the rules are so strict and the waiting-line so incredibly long. First, I have to find a partner whom I'm willing to settle down with and share my life with (which might be difficult as an asexual), then we have to be married for 2-5 years depending on the country we want to adopt from (norway has an extremely low amount of children for in-country adoption), then we have to apply and wait for maybe a year while it's being processed, then after getting a "yes" we have to wait for 2-7 years depending on the country we want to adopt from (2 years waiting is for older children, which are usually less desired because they tend to have difficulties adapting to a new culture. 7 years is the current waiting time for norwegians waiting for a child from china), and we can't apply for child number 2 before child number 1 has lived with us for at least a year, and then the process is repeated, meaning we will have a 5-10 year age gap between the siblings, which is not what I want. I want them to be around the same age, so that they can grow up together, have company and play together, like me and my brother during our childhood.

This turned out more like a rant about adoption issues, rather than a general opinion about wanting children or not, sorry! :o

... Also, if I can't adopt because of the issue of time, I might wanna be a foster-parent! Children from the child-protective-services need a lot of love too, and there is a big shortage of foster parents in my country, whereas the lines for adoption are super long. I'm gonna consider it. :) I'm only 22 yet so I'm not having any children in years to come anyway! Still want to find someone to live with first anyways!

This is a great idea, Im thankful there are people like you to try to make the world a better place.

I was lucky enough to grow up in a close, loving family and I hugely value that support system. I've known for a few years that I want a family like that when I'm a bit older (currently 24), but I'm open to different options, whether carrying a baby myself, adoption or letting my partner be the birth mother (if I'm in a relationship with another woman). Although things are a little heated here, I am happy to hear that I'm not alone in this! ^_^

Thats why i made the post! So I would know I wasn't alone xD I hope things get better for you <3

[Theoryal]

I've always wanted kids, I like kids generally speaking. That's the only purpose I see for sex, beyond that it's just weird and boring and kinda gross to me. But I already do have sex with my husband because he enjoys it so obviously I'd be willing to do it in order to have kids. I'm slightly terrified of pregnancy but also think it would be really amazing to experience that connection with your child, so yes I would like biological kids.