Teavana Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Or is that what sexual people do? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Junius Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Yes, some do. I know this because that is basically all that I can masturbate to. If my fantasies include me then they seem less thrilling to me. Sorry if that's TMI, but you asked.... ^_^ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
luxurieux Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 I can masturbate while reading/watching/imagining other people having sex, sure. It's one thing to imagine other people having sex and another to have sex yourself. I don't imagine myself having sex. It's an immediate turn off. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Teavana Posted June 10, 2014 Author Share Posted June 10, 2014 It's okay. I'm so confused about my own sexual orientation. It's mostly what I masturbate about too. I just don't know what it means. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Janus the Fox Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Well... it depends on the person, not on what sexual orientation a person is. There's plenty of past threads describing the thoughts aces can go through to get off. Very elaborate and complex sexual thoughts as well. Same goes for heterosxuals can use the thought of homosexual people having sex to get off, They may not consider themselves homosexual in any way. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Amatista Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Some asexuals masturbate and some can be turned on according to certain circumstances. There is a difference between masturbating to other people having sex and having sex yourself. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mark Leafton Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Some may. The asexual group is too diverse to make a singular statement about. As an asexual with a libido (I have a sex drive, but feel no sexual attraction) I do use pornographic material while masturbating, but I've never felt any attraction towards the people participating. What I do feel a sort of attraction towards are the hypothetical emotions that may be going on in the depicted scene or film. So what I am actually masturbating to is my own idealized idea of what sex is, not the actual sex I'm seeing in the content. It's okay. I'm so confused about my own sexual orientation. It's mostly what I masturbate about too. I just don't know what it means. Here's a little food for thought. I often masturbate to things where the genders of the subjects are ambiguous, but I would never see that as an indication of me being something different than asexual. All it means is that that is a situation I feel a certain level of attraction towards. Nothing more. Actions do not reflect sexual orientation, emotions do. While I do know that many feel there is a certain level of uncertainty in regards to their own emotions, this shouldn't be something to deter you from using a label. Labels are not rigid, and if you feel the need to change from one to another, you are free to do so. People tend to think of labels as boxes you put people in. This is a misconception however, as labels are exactly what the word means, a label to put on something to give it at least a partial description. Sadly people tend to read deeper into the labels than what they actually say, but that is a problem with bias, not the labels. Here's a short video on the subject of labels: Hope I've given you some more perspective on your own situation. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
abacct Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Simple answer: I do. So yes, asexual people can. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Corretto Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 I never have...the significance of a 'partnership' in the sources I've used when masturbating are irrelevant. They are poorly presented, or acted, and lack any story-line and usually serve as an awkward distraction. I've often feel that my personal lack of experience or understanding might be the reason I ignore, or fail to recognise, any partnership. The focus of my attention, in a hetero-aromantic sense, is purely on the anatomical features of the images shown; and, as in most porn, this is a reference to a women's anatomy. This may explain why I find pornographic images of women masturbating, particularly stimulating. The subject's facial expression, general body language and any verbal content is ignored so as not to distract my attention from their 'purpose' for me. I use the word 'purpose' to emphasise the aromantic value that I seek from the material...purely to release, through masturbation, a tension I experience regularly. Cia Quote Link to post Share on other sites
marki Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 I don't masterbate to thoughts of others....or thoughts of me with a girl. I do watch lesbian videos simply because I grew up learning that porn was what people looked at when they needed to masterbate. I mostly like watching the faces of girls when they are having sex...some of the expressions are pretty. I sometimes do it when I am bored or if it just is bugging me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
boxed toast Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 Nope, nope, nope, nope. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
kdk13 Posted June 10, 2014 Share Posted June 10, 2014 I don't think about anything Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Conscientious Ghost Posted June 11, 2014 Share Posted June 11, 2014 It depends on the person, but masturbating is not limited to only sexual people. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 11, 2014 Share Posted June 11, 2014 Until I was 21 years old I didn't even know that there were people in the world (other than those who had jobs at fertility clinics) who masturbated. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 11, 2014 Share Posted June 11, 2014 I don't but I feel so hot thinking or seeing two gay or lesbian people having sex or cuddling, of course I don't mean porn-like sex, just normal one. Heterosexual sex can be also exciting for me, it depends on my mood. One day I feel straight and other I feel like thinking on sth gay. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Video/photos of people having sex doesn't really do much for me and it's kinda hard for me to just imagine a scenario. Reading about it works for me though, whether it's true or fictional. There are a few sites that do celebrity fan fiction like that and it really works for me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Rare Aztec Whstling Chickn Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Pornographic material does help entertain my libido, but anything else is a "turn off," as anything on a screen doesn't seem so realistic. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Glyn Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Personally, I don't. But as you may have read from previous posters, some do. The way I see it is this: just because you do masturbate to it doesn't make you any less ace. Remember: there are plenty of straight men out there who seem to like girl-on-girl action - it doesn't make those men lesbians! Quote Link to post Share on other sites
pralfred Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 It depends on the mood I'm in, but yes, I do sometimes. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Schrecken Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Not me. Most of the time I don't imagine sex going on at all, and never with other people (though sometimes I imagine myself having sex with some imaginary character). But everyone is different, and the content of a fantasy often has little, if any bearing on what that person might like or want in real life. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
marki Posted June 12, 2014 Share Posted June 12, 2014 Tmi Anyone else ever just get weird cycles where you'll go for a long amount of time not masterbating....but then you'll go on a cycle where you do it a lot? I found a video I like and I just want to watch it over and over again..... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
prof mags Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 i do usually with things like hentai but occasionally ill go through a phase of videos and stuff of actual people for me its the act itself that does t for me but i need a visual aid to do it as whenever ive tried to masturbate from just imagining it takes a stupidly long time for me to finish if at all and it isnt pleasurable at all and inever include myself in the idea at all i imagine maybe what it be like to feel the sensations but never actually doing the act myself Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Mad Skittlez Posted June 13, 2014 Share Posted June 13, 2014 Well, I know that's how I do it. I never get off on picturing myself having sex, though, and I guess that's part of the distinction. Not sure, though; I suppose it's just different for everyone. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
lilbunni Posted June 14, 2014 Share Posted June 14, 2014 I am sex-repulsed, whether it be me or other people doing it, so nope, not for me. Of course, everyone is different Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Tokamak Posted June 14, 2014 Share Posted June 14, 2014 For the longest time, I didn't even know that other people thought about sex when masturbating. It just didn't occur to me. Since then, I have tried thinking about sex, and it just seems weird. It doesn't repulse me, but it just doesn't feel natural. I don't usually think about anything when masturbating. Even if I'm watching porn, I'm not really thinking about having sex with anyone. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
R_1 Posted June 14, 2014 Share Posted June 14, 2014 I do because it helps with my libido. Doesn't mean I would like to try the actual thing. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Phrenicos Posted June 15, 2014 Share Posted June 15, 2014 I do. Rather than real people, though, I imagine sex scenes featuring the characters from series of novels I'm writing. It's actually helped me get a better idea of some of the character relationships, since the scenarios I imagine tend to have a fair amount of plot before the 'porn' kicks in. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
avuhree Posted October 2, 2015 Share Posted October 2, 2015 Well, I know that's how I do it. I never get off on picturing myself having sex, though, and I guess that's part of the distinction. Not sure, though; I suppose it's just different for everyone. I am the same way. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
0000011113333 Posted October 2, 2015 Share Posted October 2, 2015 i can use porn to masturbate but i don't need it. i tend to look at things more traditional, the couples facing each other etc because i like to imagine the emotional connection between them Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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