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So size really doesn't matter because if it is huge it will end up going into an area with zero feeling and not cause any results? Good to know!!!

Lol so I am grossed out by the vagina...but am actually not grossed out by the ejaculate. Girls who can squirt are sort of cute to me for much the same reasons described above....the facial expressions are enjoyable for me to watch and the absurdity of it all is just hilarious for me.

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My opinion on oral sex? OMG, I thought in the past that it´s something that only about 5% of the most perverted people do. Something what usualy doesn´t happen. When I found out it´s very common and practically "have-to-do" thing in sexual relationship, I started to refuse to date sexuals and became sex-repulsed.

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My opinion on oral sex? OMG, I thought in the past that it´s something that only about 5% of the most perverted people do. Something what usualy doesn´t happen. When I found out it´s very common and practically "have-to-do" thing in sexual relationship, I started to refuse to date sexuals and became sex-repulsed.

I remember when I tried to date guys on-line (It was the only one dating method I used in my life :) ) they often started just dirty talks on 'doing blow job' or 'licking vagina'. anything romantic. In general I don't fine oral sex romantic. What the Hell can be romantic in spunk?! Of course I had seen oral sex in porns before that. It had always grossed me out.

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The only body part I feel safe maybe putting near that part of the girl is my hand. Because fingers are not spooky at all.....and it seems like they can accomplish exactly the same result as using my mouth but at a much smaller yuck barf factor.

Although....maybe it would be yuck also...the whole area scares me and requires more research on my part!

loooooooooooooooooool yuckkkk

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WhenSummersGone

I think oral sex is gross. I'm not sure why people do it or where it came from, probably porn. If I had to I would rather give than receive. Fingering felt better though. Anal sex is also something gross and I would never do it.

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The Great WTF

Sorry, couldn't get my hands on the textbook but a quick consultation with my Greek and Roman history textbooks mentions depictions of oral sex in the public baths of Pompeii, in any place that was made for worship of the god Eros, and several other places. I believe there were images depicting oral sex in Egyptian tombs as well but I need to double check that one.

I kind of find it hilarious that people assume that the 20th century popularized so many of these sexual acts. It's not as though people weren't coming up with creative places to stick their genitalia before the industrial revolution.

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WhenSummersGone

Sorry, couldn't get my hands on the textbook but a quick consultation with my Greek and Roman history textbooks mentions depictions of oral sex in the public baths of Pompeii, in any place that was made for worship of the god Eros, and several other places. I believe there were images depicting oral sex in Egyptian tombs as well but I need to double check that one.

I kind of find it hilarious that people assume that the 20th century popularized so many of these sexual acts. It's not as though people weren't coming up with creative places to stick their genitalia before the industrial revolution.

Thanks for posting this. I just assumed porn came up with these ideas.

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The Great WTF

Sorry, couldn't get my hands on the textbook but a quick consultation with my Greek and Roman history textbooks mentions depictions of oral sex in the public baths of Pompeii, in any place that was made for worship of the god Eros, and several other places. I believe there were images depicting oral sex in Egyptian tombs as well but I need to double check that one.

I kind of find it hilarious that people assume that the 20th century popularized so many of these sexual acts. It's not as though people weren't coming up with creative places to stick their genitalia before the industrial revolution.

Thanks for posting this. I just assumed porn came up with these ideas.
Nope. People were perverted long before porn. Christianity tried to get rid of it, but they never quite succeeded.

There's also oral sex in the Kama Sutra.

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WhenSummersGone

Sorry, couldn't get my hands on the textbook but a quick consultation with my Greek and Roman history textbooks mentions depictions of oral sex in the public baths of Pompeii, in any place that was made for worship of the god Eros, and several other places. I believe there were images depicting oral sex in Egyptian tombs as well but I need to double check that one.

I kind of find it hilarious that people assume that the 20th century popularized so many of these sexual acts. It's not as though people weren't coming up with creative places to stick their genitalia before the industrial revolution.

Thanks for posting this. I just assumed porn came up with these ideas.

Nope. People were perverted long before porn. Christianity tried to get rid of it, but they never quite succeeded.

There's also oral sex in the Kama Sutra.

Now I know lol. I still think it's gross but I'll stop blaming porn. I think beastiality is old as well.

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The Great WTF

Well Zeus DID turn into a swan to have sex with a woman... and a shower of gold...

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French did it back in the day!

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SchrodingersCat

Oral: Not a fan of giving, but I do enjoy receiving. I'll give it to the right person, but it doesn't do it for me. I do it because they like it and I love them. I never do it with someone I don't love.

Apparently child birth can be pretty painful as-is, so it makes good sense that most of the vaginal canal and cervix have no feeling. In fact, doctors can perform minor surgical procedures to the cervix without any anesthesia.

Try telling that to my cervix during and after my Colposcopy (cervix biopsy). I don't care what (male) doctors say - my cervix has neves and that's all there is to it.

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PaintedDoll

I consider myself sex indifferent, but I get pretty repulsed when it comes to oral...never given it and never intend to.

On second thought, maybe it would be more enjoyable than dealing with how angry the guys I've known have gotten when I've denied them :(.

I've never had a guy give it to me either. First of all, my libido's so low, it would probably take forever for anything to happen, and everyone would just feel embarrassed. Secondly, I'd never want to put my mouth anywhere near my vagina, so I think it's unfair to expect someone else to do it.

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Sorry, couldn't get my hands on the textbook but a quick consultation with my Greek and Roman history textbooks mentions depictions of oral sex in the public baths of Pompeii, in any place that was made for worship of the god Eros, and several other places. I believe there were images depicting oral sex in Egyptian tombs as well but I need to double check that one.

I kind of find it hilarious that people assume that the 20th century popularized so many of these sexual acts. It's not as though people weren't coming up with creative places to stick their genitalia before the industrial revolution.

Apparently, the Victorians unearthed a bunch of ancient Egyptian art depicting oral sex and bestiality. I can just imagine their expressions!

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My opinion on oral sex? OMG, I thought in the past that it´s something that only about 5% of the most perverted people do. Something what usualy doesn´t happen. When I found out it´s very common and practically "have-to-do" thing in sexual relationship, I started to refuse to date sexuals and became sex-repulsed.

I kind of thought the same thing - that practically no one except sexual "deviants" would do such a thing. When I was a kid I'd see dogs stick their noses and mouths in each others private areas and I thought it was disgusting that they did that, but at some point I realized that they are animals, and as any dog owner knows, dogs tend to love things humans find to be repulsive. But I couldn't imagine in my wildest dreams that any self-respecting human would put his or her mouth near or on anyone else's genitalia. I also thought oral sex was some kind of euphemism for French kissing when I was a pre-teen, and it took me a long time to understand why people were so hush-hush and sometimes shocked about its mention (remember, I grew up in the 70's and 80's here in the US, in a socially conservative family at that).

As for my opinions of it now, I could go the rest of my life without ever giving or receiving it, and be perfectly happy. That said, the other thing is that if I had the choice of giving a partner oral sex or having vaginal sex (assuming the parts were clean, of course, for the oral), I'd give the oral sex. It might taste/smell nasty (my best friend always complained that her boyfriend's cum smelled like a dirty dish rag!), but at least it wouldn't be painful and there'd be no chance of pregnancy.

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Apparently child birth can be pretty painful as-is, so it makes good sense that most of the vaginal canal and cervix have no feeling. In fact, doctors can perform minor surgical procedures to the cervix without any anesthesia.

Try telling that to my cervix during and after my Colposcopy (cervix biopsy). I don't care what (male) doctors say - my cervix has neves and that's all there is to it.

Seconded. I'm sure some women have hardened cervixes but I don't think it means there aren't any nerve endings down there. I got a copper IUD placed in about two months ago and it was probably the most uncomfortable and one of the more painful things I've ever had to do. I compare the pain to the time I got a filling between my two front teeth without any anesthetics. The procedure was brief, at most 3-5 mins, but it definitively was not fun. Seriously, my doctor half-jokingly said my bf should take me out to dinner for getting the IUD. :P

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LenaLuthor

Seconded. I'm sure some women have hardened cervixes but I don't think it means there aren't any nerve endings down there. I got a copper IUD placed in about two months ago and it was probably the most uncomfortable and one of the more painful things I've ever had to do. I compare the pain to the time I got a filling between my two front teeth without any anesthetics. The procedure was brief, at most 3-5 mins, but it definitively was not fun. Seriously, my doctor half-jokingly said my bf should take me out to dinner for getting the IUD. :P

You got fillings without anesthesia? God damn! That must of hurt like hell!

As to the topic of this thread: I would rather burn myself than have any part in that!

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My opinion on oral sex? OMG, I thought in the past that it´s something that only about 5% of the most perverted people do. Something what usualy doesn´t happen. When I found out it´s very common and practically "have-to-do" thing in sexual relationship, I started to refuse to date sexuals and became sex-repulsed.

I kind of thought the same thing - that practically no one except sexual "deviants" would do such a thing. When I was a kid I'd see dogs stick their noses and mouths in each others private areas and I thought it was disgusting that they did that, but at some point I realized that they are animals, and as any dog owner knows, dogs tend to love things humans find to be repulsive.

But in dogs it makes sense. They have much more developed noses than humans and they gather informations mostly thanks to smell. They smell everything all the time. It doesn´t seem disgusting to me when I see dogs smelling each other´s genitals.

But people during oral sex don´t just smell to gather informations, they do much worse things. And gag reflex exists for a reason!!!

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Heh. I wouldn't give oral sex to someone who didn't intend to reciprocate.

Ex, talking about oral sex: "You know, I've never done it before."

Me "Huh."

Ex: "It seems kind of gross. I don't think I'd do it."

Me: "Ditto! I agree!"

Ex: *strange smile* "I think that's kind of expected."

He thought that oral was expected for guys, but not for girls.

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Mostly Peaceful Ryan

Heh. I wouldn't give oral sex to someone who didn't intend to reciprocate.

Ex, talking about oral sex: "You know, I've never done it before."

Me "Huh."

Ex: "It seems kind of gross. I don't think I'd do it."

Me: "Ditto! I agree!"

Ex: *strange smile* "I think that's kind of expected."

He thought that oral was expected for guys, but not for girls.

My response to him would have been this:

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Ineffable Aardwolf

Hmm... I don't really understand why so many people are so grossed-out by genitals (well... male ones, anyway). If the person takes a shower and cleans them, it's no different than any other body part.

Of course, I do also lick people's faces and necks, which is also, apparently, "gross." -shrug-

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Ineffable Aardwolf

I consider myself sex indifferent, but I get pretty repulsed when it comes to oral...never given it and never intend to.

On second thought, maybe it would be more enjoyable than dealing with how angry the guys I've known have gotten when I've denied them :(.

I've never had a guy give it to me either. First of all, my libido's so low, it would probably take forever for anything to happen, and everyone would just feel embarrassed. Secondly, I'd never want to put my mouth anywhere near my vagina, so I think it's unfair to expect someone else to do it.

I understand what you mean about it taking forever (does for me as well) and also not expecting other people to do something you wouldn't do.

If a guy (or girl!) gets angry or moody at you for not giving him what he (or she!) wants... you drop that bitch like a venomous snake and run. No one should be in a relationship like that; that is emotionally abusive and unhealthy.

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Trava u doma

Oral sex seems incredibly repulsive to me, both giving and receiving. I imagine it must be highly uncomfortable. I don't think I could ever bring myself to do it. Considering I'm homoromantic, I guess no relationships for me.....

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Just get with an ace trava! Then you don't need to worry about oral sex! Or get with someone who was born with no mouth! Then they can't give you the oral sex ever!

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Trava u doma

I'm not really that bothered to be in a relationship, tbh =) I'm probably lith.

But, yeah, I gues it would have to be an ace; I don't know many people with no mouth :P

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Hmm... I don't really understand why so many people are so grossed-out by genitals (well... male ones, anyway). If the person takes a shower and cleans them, it's no different than any other body part.

Of course, I do also lick people's faces and necks, which is also, apparently, "gross." -shrug-

I´m not repulsed by genitals but by body fluids which splash from them. And I have so strong gag reflex I can´t tolerate much smaller things in my mouth than penis.

It also seems to me too one-sided and degrading if only one of both partners enjoys the activity while the other is working hard to please him or her.

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Apparently child birth can be pretty painful as-is, so it makes good sense that most of the vaginal canal and cervix have no feeling. In fact, doctors can perform minor surgical procedures to the cervix without any anesthesia.

Try telling that to my cervix during and after my Colposcopy (cervix biopsy). I don't care what (male) doctors say - my cervix has neves and that's all there is to it.

Seconded. I'm sure some women have hardened cervixes but I don't think it means there aren't any nerve endings down there. I got a copper IUD placed in about two months ago and it was probably the most uncomfortable and one of the more painful things I've ever had to do. I compare the pain to the time I got a filling between my two front teeth without any anesthetics. The procedure was brief, at most 3-5 mins, but it definitively was not fun. Seriously, my doctor half-jokingly said my bf should take me out to dinner for getting the IUD. :P

The clinics here give you prescription pain killers if they have to do anything to your cervix, because of the amount of pain it generally causes. They can't knock you out though. :(

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transformer1903

Oh gosh oh gosh the world of asexuals is different to mine. While I understand this sort of information squicks a lot of the aces here, I feel a bit like I want to help out any of the aces and demis who are having a go because they've agreed to do so. I think there are some misconceptions here that could make a lot of people's lives a bit easier:

- On receiving oral sex as a woman, I'm not particularly a fan because I tend to have a kind of "sub" mentality in sex anyway (this isn't abusive or forced for me, I just like seeing something I do to somebody I'm attracted to give them a big release, as somebody said ages ago it's a bit of a power trip) but in receiving, if the woman's libido is higher then a tongue on more or less anywhere feels... good. The clitoris is really not that difficult to find if you get a woman to point it out to you, and whileI'm personally kind of freaked out by the idea of somebody trying to pretend their tongue is a penis, people without penises have got to try somehow I suppose... but remember that isn't necessary, as it's not the best way to make most women aroused. As the ace who's really squicked by vaginas says, fingers are fine for this. And a handy tip! If you feel like things are going slower than you'd hoped (because while I've never had any kind of sex with an ace or a grey-ace, this is the sort of thing I imagine would make me a bit nervous on the receiving end), pressing the muscles about a palm's width down from her belly-button will help her to relax a bit. That can help with all the sex with a vagina, provided the person is happy having sex in the first place.

- In giving a blowjob, you shouldn't really be gagging unless you're being entirely too adventurous for your own good (the idea for anyone who can't deep-throat [i can, but that's the sort of effort no asexual person should have to put in in my opinion] is that you should use your hand for the rest of the penis, after wetting it with your tongue or whatever. I've once sort of grazed a penis with my teeth "in the heat of the moment" and that was pretty terrible, but you'd have to be pure evil/ on a serious revenge spree to want to bite anybody's erect cock. It's just mean. And if you're at a point where the girth of a penis in your mouth makes you think you might, don't do that for a while. Whenever I have licked a man's balls, he has thanked me. It's a heck of a lot easier than the things some of you sound like you're trying to do.

Basically, as a sexual person, all the things you folk are worrying about, such as hygiene (don't get me wrong I have an aversion to bad smells and diseases, and if I was giving a man a blowjob I'd expect him to have washed since he last peed) aren't an issue, because I'm not thinking about germs, I'm thinking about how sensitive I've become and how pretty whoever is in front of me is. This sort of distraction is something you should take advantage of! A condom shouldn't annoy any sexual partner you have, of any gender (there are latex condom equivalents for women, though they can be difficult to find in your average supermarket, use the internet) and if you have a preference in this area, particularly if you're asexual, you have every right to demand that. Some people prefer not to use contraception, but unless they're somebody you completely trust both emotionally and physically I would never recommend sex without some kind of protection, and that includes homosexual sex.

All of that is in white, because I talk about details in the oral sex for men and women. Highlight it if you're curious, but I'm not into making friends gag, so please don't if you aren't.

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I don't think oral sex is the most intimate thing between two people. Just deep kisses are more intimate. I think just a simple kiss on genitalia would be better than licking them, no matter if the one wears underwear or not.

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Hugging is intimate!

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