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What's your opinion on oral sex as it's a big thing nowadays and treated as 'must- do' thing in most of medias? In my opinion it's very disgusting and I don't imagine myself having it or doing a blow job. It associates me with holding down. I really don't know why people can like it, maybe the reason is that it's 'in-fashion' as I wrote on the beginning. In addition it became much popular as it's visible in almost every porn and people just want to try it.

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Honestly the thought of "holding one down" applies more in porn, rather than actual sex. That's because porn is meant to be a more brutal act of sex, instead of the act of one "making love." In fact, someone once gave me oral and i liked it. There was no forcing anything. More-or-less it was experimental and we were sort of trying it ourselves but nonetheless we were still satisfied, or at least i was anyway. :unsure:

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no way. I find it gross. it is not hygienic. in my culture, it is not normal to give a man oral sex. and if a man ask for it most women would think of him as a gross hyper sexual person.

Most sexual girls feel the pressure to please their partners

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I don't find it disgusting, thought I don't have any interest in doing it. Some people enjoy giving and receiving oral, some people don't like it, some people are indifferent... just like every other sexual act. And I'm pretty sure the way porn portrays oral is very different from real life, just like "normal" sex. As for it being unhygienic, I don't think it's anymore unhygienic than kissing considering how much bacteria is in the human mouth, so long as neither partner have an STD (safe sex people!) but then you can get herpes from kissing too :unsure:

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I find it pretty unsanitary, and unappealing. I don't want someone in my body, unless they're a surgeon taking out a bullet! And on the other side, having a part of me so close to two rows of razor sharp incisors would make me a bit uneasy...

I don't have my books on me, but I did a lot of research on rape culture and the sex industry. It seems that a good number of men do desire oral sex, and tend to request it quite frequently with sex workers. Furthermore, a high percentage of men desire more oral sex (Or fellatio, to be pompous) with their current sexual partners; a desire which is not reciprocated nearly as highly. It may be that oral sex has lost a lot of it's sexual meaning, and become just another form of domination. However, if all participants involved happily consent to it, then there's absolutely no problem. Consent is a really tough concept to define and carry out though, since one's perception of whether it was consensual or not is variable with time.

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MC Dusters

I love oral sex. It's like eating an icecream, just 100x better. And i like both giving and receiving. It's funny. And you can't get pregnant. God bless, oral sex rules :redface:

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Artistofnoname

Its unsanitary and while you can't get pregnant you can still get disease. I don't even see why anyone would consent to it much less bring up doing so in the first place. Its just sickening when you think about what the process entails but I'm not going to get graphic.

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The Great WTF

I enjoy giving blowjobs. I get a bit of a power trip from them and they are just entertaining. Don't know why, but they are.

And there's quite a bit of archaeological evidence showing that oral sex had been around as long as any other sex act, do I don't really see the point in saying porn has popularized it. Humans have an amazing amount of strange ingenuity when it comes to sex.

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sound_the_bugle

I enjoy giving blowjobs. I get a bit of a power trip from them and they are just entertaining. Don't know why, but they are.

And there's quite a bit of archaeological evidence showing that oral sex had been around as long as any other sex act, do I don't really see the point in saying porn has popularized it. Humans have an amazing amount of strange ingenuity when it comes to sex.

Now I'm really curious. Any chance you could share what that evidence is?

Personally, I don't like receiving oral, and I don't really feel entirely comfortable with the idea of giving it.

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Tmi

Well I am a hetroromantic male. I will NEVER and I mean NEVER put my mouth anywhere near a vagina. Oh hell no! Firstly, mouths are dirty. Secondly, vaginas are terrible looking, and thirdly what if she is a squirter and decides to ejaculate into my mouth? Yuck sick gross!

As far as a girl sucking my dick? Oh hell no! I try to keep myself clean but that is a hard part to keep clean. Also mouths are dirty and why would a girl want to lick / suck on something I pee from? Oh and then you have the whole she most likely will bite/ choke on me which isn't seeming too great.

So overall the answer for giving or receiving is a giant "Hell no!"

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I don't like receiving it, cause, ew. And I don't get anything out of it anyway, so doubly ew. I don't mind giving it, as long as the guy isn't someone that has a lot of that clear liquid coming out of him all the time (so gross) and actually cleans himself (foreskin does have to be pulled back and cleaned guys, really, it does.. so do testicles, clean those or they smell like gym socks). Uhm. Ok, I have had some bad experiences. :lol: But, most the time I don't mind giving it. It's not forcing at all, unless the person for some reason wants to do the whole porn "grab the hair and jam the partners head down" thing. It's actually giving the person GIVING it a lot of control. And... bonus, it means I don't have to go take a shower or clean up after since it's one sided.

Edit: Marki - if you're good at oral sex you don't bite or choke on the guy. The mouth is germ filled though.

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I'd never ask or expect anybody to give it to me- it seems to have too many overtones of submission, which might be one reason why men are more likely to seek it from sex workers rather than their partners. Another being that it's kind of seen as less like infidelity if you aren't having full penetrative sex, I suppose.

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I dislike receiving oral sex, it's bland at best and horrible at worst. I sometimes like giving oral sex, it's fun but it's not really sexual in my mind, more along the lines of an intimate massage.

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The Great WTF

I enjoy giving blowjobs. I get a bit of a power trip from them and they are just entertaining. Don't know why, but they are.

And there's quite a bit of archaeological evidence showing that oral sex had been around as long as any other sex act, do I don't really see the point in saying porn has popularized it. Humans have an amazing amount of strange ingenuity when it comes to sex.

Now I'm really curious. Any chance you could share what that evidence is?

Personally, I don't like receiving oral, and I don't really feel entirely comfortable with the idea of giving it.

I'll see if I can borrow the History of Sexuality textbook from the campus library again and snap some pictures. It's really popular for some reason.

Random useless trvia: Archaeologists recently found what appears to be a dildo that is older than the pyramids.

More random trivia: My phone's spellcheck does not recognize dildo as a word.

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Eh...I really don't like any kind of sex. I don't think I ever would, even if I had a sexual partner. It really kind of grosses me out to think of my mouth on someone's genitals (typing that kind of makes me gag) or theirs on mine (typing that kind of makes me gag, too).

Now, if I had a partner and I knew them well, and they really, really wanted to, I might consent. But only (and I mean ONLY) if they use a condom/plastic wrap. Because genitals already gross me out. Add genital fluids and the thought almost has me vomiting in the corner. It would be really hard for me to accept someone wanting to perform oral sex on me. I don't like my genitals, and I don't really want anyone else to like them either. I would prefer if we just pretend they don't exist. To be honest, I'm a bit curious as to why people love it so much, and would only try it for curiosity's sake, if I didn't have such a vendetta against genitals in the first place.

But yeah. I don't think I'd like oral sex. Or any other kind of sex.

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Oh and another thing......my tongue doesn't go out far....how am I supposed to please a girl...besides where are you supposed to even put your mouth on girls? They have waaaaay too many squiggles and flaps.

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Artistofnoname

Plus if your getting it from someone that has something against you that you don't know about. They could take that opportunity to bite....

Needless to say I don't think that would be fun to explain to the doctor or anyone else

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Plus if your getting it from someone that has something against you that you don't know about. They could take that opportunity to bite....

Needless to say I don't think that would be fun to explain to the doctor or anyone else

Doctors have seen way, way worse, I assure you. And I would hope you know the person has a serious vendetta against you to the point of wanting to physically harm you before trusting them with something like that anyway...

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Assuming I'm in a relationship and there is sufficient trust, I'm fine with giving. Whatever makes them happy. Ironically receiving takes a lot more trust on my end of things.

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Arctangent

Even though I personally find it kind of squicky, I can understand why oral sex would be popular. I asked a friend about it, and he said "just think of how warm and nimble tongues can be." I'm sure it's enjoyable for a lot of people, and oral sex also comes with fewer risks than vaginal or anal intercourse. I don't think there's anything inherently degrading about oral sex either, although perhaps it gets portrayed that way sometimes. Some people actively enjoy giving oral sex, others are neutral about it but willing to do it to for their partners, and still others don't want to at all. As long as the people in the relationship genuinely trust and respect each other, they should be able define and communicate their boundaries freely, and coercion shouldn't be a problem.

Speaking strictly on a personal level, I find unprotected oral sex unappealing due to fluid repulsion (particularly giving, but also receiving to some extent). Using a latex barrier would reduce the squick factor for me, so I might be able to do it in that case. Some people don't like to do it that way, though. Assuming I trusted the other person enough, I probably wouldn't mind if they used a little force either (sometimes I like having my hair pulled... I guess I'm a bit strange in that sense :P) but that would only happen with my explicit consent, so it wouldn't literally be forced upon me.

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The only body part I feel safe maybe putting near that part of the girl is my hand. Because fingers are not spooky at all.....and it seems like they can accomplish exactly the same result as using my mouth but at a much smaller yuck barf factor.

Although....maybe it would be yuck also...the whole area scares me and requires more research on my part!

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Elisabeth33

I don't like the idea of giving a male oral sex because....ewww. Even after taking a human anatomy class in college, the male anatomy still scares me a lot.

However, I have received oral and it just wasn't...exciting, I guess. It was experimental, but still, I felt bored by it. I tried my best to act like I was at least enjoying it a little bit, but my mind was more interested in the room I was in and what I was going to eat for dinner and what homework I needed to do later. It could have been asexuality talking, or it could be that the guy didn't know anything about female anatomy and telling him where the clitoris was was WAY too difficult for him to understand. Whatever it was, I just wasn't that into it, even though my sexual partner was.

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Isn't the clitoris the little doodad under that like flappy thing towards the top?

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Elisabeth33

Isn't the clitoris the little doodad under that like flappy thing towards the top?

Yes. Unfortunately, the person I received oral sex from is currently a dual major in two types of engineering. He's intelligent, but biology, especially human anatomy, is not something that he studies. Which usually ended up with me telling him about the various parts of the body, such as how women do not pee out of their vaginas and how the clitoris is about twice as sensitive as the penis. I had more fun geeking out about human anatomy to him than having him give me oral sex.

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Wait........they don't pee out of the vagina? It is the button that is actually a tiny micro penis yeah? So if that is what gets girls off why would anyone ever have to put anything inside anywhere? Wow.....girls are too damn confusing...let them just pleasure themselves and I would just make cookies in the other room.

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Girls can "get off" from clitoral stimulation (though, for some girls, that area is no touch because it is too sensitive to directly touch) or from penetration. The "g spot" works. It is way easier to do for most (from what I have read) from clitotal stimulation though. Personally, I do not enjoy orgasms (painful, uncomfortable) so would rather make cookies. :p

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Wait........they don't pee out of the vagina? It is the button that is actually a tiny micro penis yeah? So if that is what gets girls off why would anyone ever have to put anything inside anywhere? Wow.....girls are too damn confusing...let them just pleasure themselves and I would just make cookies in the other room.

I think that there is good reason for women to have their "sensitive spot" (the clitoris) outside of the vaginal canal, because only about the outer third or so of the vaginal canal has nerve endings (bet you didn't know that). The reason for that is pretty obvious when one considers what other main purpose the vaginal canal plays in females (humans and most other mammals) - it is also the "birth canal". Apparently child birth can be pretty painful as-is, so it makes good sense that most of the vaginal canal and cervix have no feeling. In fact, doctors can perform minor surgical procedures to the cervix without any anesthesia. Those areas are sensitive to pressure, but not touch. So, unlike a penis (which is sensitive to touch all over its surface), the vagina is only sensitive in a small part. And that small part I don't think would be enough to provide enough pleasure for women to seek sex (which is why the horrors of female genital mutilation are done on young girls in various backwards parts of the world in order to keep them from seeking out sex with anyone but whatever man they are forced to marry) on its own.

So basically, despite what you might see in a porn film, penile penetration is often much more rewarding for the man from that standpoint.

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Tmi

Well I am a hetroromantic male. I will NEVER and I mean NEVER put my mouth anywhere near a vagina. Oh hell no! Firstly, mouths are dirty. Secondly, vaginas are terrible looking, and thirdly what if she is a squirter and decides to ejaculate into my mouth? Yuck sick gross!

As far as a girl sucking my dick? Oh hell no! I try to keep myself clean but that is a hard part to keep clean. Also mouths are dirty and why would a girl want to lick / suck on something I pee from? Oh and then you have the whole she most likely will bite/ choke on me which isn't seeming too great.

So overall the answer for giving or receiving is a giant "Hell no!"

Talking on oral sex I'd also say 'Hell no!' and wouldn't agree on it. In contrary to you I'm not grossed out by genitals as organs. I only like this one we can see in porns, because they're so 'artificial', \non-real' and often an effect of plastic surgery as well as women breasts. I find blow job more disgusting, even if it's done with condom. I can't imagine myself sitting and just having someone's tongue in my vagina. It' must be very strange. I believe I can stimulate my clitoris better than someone's tongue :redface:

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Mostly Peaceful Ryan

I love oral sex. It's like eating an icecream, just 100x better. And i like both giving and receiving. It's funny. And you can't get pregnant. God bless, oral sex rules :redface:

I am sorry but I got to ask. What Ice cream are you eating.... that reminds u of that.... :huh:

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Ineffable Aardwolf

I'm about to say something that probably sounds completely illogical and seems contradictory to itself but is, nonetheless, true for me.

I love penises in a non-sexual way, even when they are erect. To me, the male anatomy is more "cute" than "sexy." I like the way it feels, the way it tastes, even the way it smells (if it's clean), and I love the cute faces other guys make when I play with their junk.

I'm really not all that impressed with ejaculation, but I realize that it's necessary and that stimulation stops being fun after a while if there is no release. Basically, I just like making my partner feel good. I'm not always in the mood for it, but when I am, I try to do a good job.

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