Virgin aces census

[Guest]

As a virgin ace I'd like to know opinions of other ones, what do you think on your virginity, do you like it or not, etc.

So

I like to be a virgin and stay it forever ( Maybe in my afterlife not, 'cause there're tons of very intellectual and art-crazy men so I suppose I couldn't help myself. :D) . No, no I'm not innocent, I curse like a sailor and often have very dirty talks :) My virginity is my own business, it's too personal to tell about it everybody.

[AnomalyEternal]

I like being a virgin. I don't know if I'd like to stay a virgin, but I'm leaning more towards yes at the moment. My behaviour can be innocent from time to time but usually I'm just as immature as everyone else, and occasionally I even find sex jokes amusing. My virginity is my own business. It doesn't effect anyone's else's life. Me being a virgin won't have any impact on other people. Whether I stay a virgin all my life and sexual people will make fun of me, laugh, think I'm joking, pity me etc. couldn't bother me less.

[Maria92]

I'm rather happy with being a virgin, aye. I'm fine with being one forever, and I don't see what all the fuss about losing it is over. In terms of innocence, I'm not. I'm a filthy pervert, and despite my asexuality, sex is still quite amusing to me. It's more that I like the thought of it rather than the action. I'm not interested in meatspace sex, but in mindspace, I'm still rather....easily excitable.

[MadRat]

I am virgin and I want to stay that way.

My behavior is innocent when it comes to other things related to sex and relationships, for example I don´t get flirting, I don´t dress in sexy way, I don´t talk about sex.

My virginity is my own business and something I want to preserve forever because I am sex-repulsed. I think it makes me very unusual and I would be ashamed if someone discovered it but I don´t think it will happen. I don´t date, I don´t have any really close friends, so noone askes me about it.

[catsaregood]

I'm mostly ok with being a virgin, particularly as it means I haven't had to do the sex :) and I'm very happy staying this way and not having to go through with sex in the future...I'm pretty cheeky, and make plenty of rude comments and jokes (which luckily also helps me 'blend in' with my sexual friends). But I don't think I'd feel comfortable sharing the knowledge (though it would depend on the person I was talking to) because society places such a stigma on it, and I don't know if I'm ready to challenge that yet! Maybe one day...

[Philip027]

I'd probably be staying one forever, as I don't want kids and I see no reason to bother with sex otherwise. I don't see any reason for me to be proud of that; that's just the way things are for me.

[Corretto]

My virginity was a real worry back in my 'varsity days. It was a real peer-pressure envy 'thing'. I've never analysed it too closely. My main concern, back then, was trying to 'keep up' with things going on around me eg music, m/cycles, dope-smoking, sport and [occasionally] my studies. My social focus was only around my immediate self. It was like a 100 metre sprint; trying to achieve everything at once. 'Having it off' with an attractive young woman with all the physical attributes 'required,' was something I failed to achieve.

I tried to make up for it on the volley-ball court, smoking Lucky Strike cigs, and listening to 'alternative music'.

So, I've ended up an aromantic, asexual, virgin; who no longer smokes, follows rugby [see Google] and listens to a lot of Pink Floyd! Ciao

[Ziggy_G]

I think there arent enough options. Especially for the first one, a 'neither' option would have been nice. I don't like or dislike it. Except times like this when I am actually asked that it doesnt even really occur to be to be a thing i'd like or dislike.

I mean people are pretty surprised to find out I'm a virgin (and that I'm asexual, which is the reason why I expect to stay a virgin) cos I talk about sexual stuff a lot. The guys say I'm the perverted dirty one, and thats not for no reason. I'll usually be the first one to make things dirty and always be the one to talk the conversation into the weirder kinkier places. To me its all the same, whether your banging your girlfriend in your room or a pixar character on top of an ambulance, in fact if there's any difference its that its a little less weird and more interesting when we are discussing weird fetishes or phillias than real life. But it also means I'll make anything dirty in the most perverted ways. Leading people to think I'm the kinkiest of them all. But I'm all talk and I admit it. There faces are priceless though when they discover I'm asexual. lol.

I said yes to liking that I'm a virgin and saying one forever, simply becos loosing my virginity would mean I would have partaken in sex which isn't appealing to me and actually I think it would be quite emotionally traumatic. As an entity in inself I place no value on my virginity. Which maybe is strange considering I'm a Christian and so some of my christian friends have purity rings and most my christian friends are either virgins or waited until marriage, or have struggled with the whole keeping their virginity thing. And I try to be supportive with that, and so I get how virginity as a thing is important to them, but becos I don't want the thing that would unvirgin me I don't see that it matters to me personally.

[Braydin]

I am an apathetic virgin. I just don't care about it. Never had the peer pressure or desire, so essentially it is a non issue. I don't really see it as something to be proud of either though, it is not as though sex is some great mystical force that corrupts your soul or anything.

[LaMaestra]

I am a virgin and that's all there is to it. I am not entirely innocent as I enjoy risqué humour, swear like the proverbial navvy and regard the gentleman on my avatar as the only serious threat to my asexuality (although I don't suppose I would act on it).

[romantic-woman]

I don't have problem with it, it is true that some people are really bothered when they are still virgins cause society presses all of them about sex. Many of them have sex just to get rid of this "problem" as how they speak about virginity.

For me it's not a problem, i am proud cause i didn't let myself to be used by men, it was my choice and i really don't care about it.

Some told me that virgin girls are idiots and they are not able enough to enjoy things that others do (sex, relief etc). For me sex is not enjoyment but it seems like a nightmare lol.

I also really adore virgin boys, it means that they are strong enough and selective so they don't care about anyone's opinion.

[manny-senpai]

With the first question "Do you like being a virgin?" I was kind of disappointed that there wasn't an choice for indifference.

[LaMaestra]

What I don't understand and find sad about society is that they are more tolerant of those with 'loose' morals than with virgins. It seems acceptable to disrespect virgins yet one is not allowed to be against those whose morals one does not agree with.

[DexM]

What I don't understand and find sad about society is that they are more tolerant of those with 'loose' morals than with virgins. It seems acceptable to disrespect virgins yet one is not allowed to be against those whose morals one does not agree with.

There was this lad I knew. An ex associate, a guy who loved to "put it about", and if that meant cheating on a partner, then so be it. If you have seen Family Guy, he was a real life Quagmire. And a true "hero" to the lads. Never understood it to be honest. But in the end there's always going to be a minority. I'm not putting virgins/non virgins in the same minority bracket as those who have experienced far more significant, damaging, disturbing and down right shocking, abuse. But a minority will often be frowned upon. Those who like to party, like to go out, socialise, be seen about town, are always going to find it hard to fathom why there are people who don't enjoy it. There are a lot more extroverts than introverts. There's probably a lot more who have lost their virginity than those who haven't. In, around and over the age of consent, I mean.

And I really can't imagine you swearing like a trooper :o

[littleheartsofjoy]

I also wish that there was a indifference option as well. I'm not happy about being a virgin, but at the same time, that doesn't mean that I'm sad. I'm indifferent, it isn't a huge deal to me. I would prefer to stay a virgin though. Virginity is not always equal to innocence. Some people who aren't, play the innocent card so well. As Philip said, it's not something that I am particularly proud of, but I am not ashamed at all either.

[manny-senpai]

What I don't understand and find sad about society is that they are more tolerant of those with 'loose' morals than with virgins. It seems acceptable to disrespect virgins yet one is not allowed to be against those whose morals one does not agree with.

The movie The Breakfast Club one of the characters was asked if she was a virgin. Then a different character pointed out that it is a trick question. If you are a virgin then you're prude but if you are not then you're a slut. It puts you in a lose/lose situation and that is just horrible.

[5_♦♣]

What I don't understand and find sad about society is that they are more tolerant of those with 'loose' morals than with virgins. It seems acceptable to disrespect virgins yet one is not allowed to be against those whose morals one does not agree with.

If anything, virginity is put on a pedestal, especially female virginity.

[iujghewbge]

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[Geoff]

It's awkward to notice that I'm the only one that answered "No" to the first question. :P The reason I answered "No" is because I don't like "being a virgin." And I don't really dislike it either. It doesn't have any bearing on me as a person or my sexuality. And since saying "I like being..." is an out-and-out definitive statement, and "I don't like being..." leaves room for apathy...there it is.

So basically, that's it. I don't mind having sex in the future, and I'm somewhat curious about it. "Innocence" has absolutely nothing to do with it; I've talked sex and made innuendo, both intentional and unintentional, in the recent past.

And I'd like it if there were an "other" option for the last question. "Virginity" as a concept isn't a thing I consider. I've never had sex, but since I don't place value on sex/marriage/having a family, why should I go and call myself a "virgin" as if it matters?

[LaMaestra]

I'm Irish, Dex! I have a fiery temper and know some very colourful language!

[Piotrek]

I am an apathetic virgin. I just don't care about it. Never had the peer pressure or desire, so essentially it is a non issue. I don't really see it as something to be proud of either though, it is not as though sex is some great mystical force that corrupts your soul or anything.

This. I don't shout from the rooftops about this so there's no way anyone in my social circle will know about my virginity anyway.

[Wokgran X]

I thought for a very long time that being a virgin was some sort of "badge" that showed off my ability to don't tempt into making what others do, just because they do it. Like some sort of "i don't do drugs badge", it's like saying that i don't drink alcohol or smoke, to me all have the same impact/pattern of thinking, and i am proud of being virgin because much of my perception of the act is addiction related. After reading things here, i realized that people do have something "more" to seek in those sexual acts, but whatever, still proud of at least not trying it to prove them wrong.

It probably makes me unusual, since i deny certain kinds of events that are sex-focused, like (beer/college) parties, night-clubs and other major events ("carnaval parties" for example). There are lots of aspects in those places/events that i dislike, but since the usual objective is to bang someone, i just deny it using the "i don't seek that kind of thing" argument, whenever people ask me why i don't go with them and etc. (Saying that you don't like loud music, crowds, dealing with drunk people, and so on is not enough to make them stop insisting sometimes)

And sure, i want to keep being like that, still waiting for "my wizard rank" at level(age) 30. Maybe i can achieve Arch-mage class at Lv. 50? xDD

[ChrissyBear121]

While I've never thought about being a virgin as a dislike or like thing, I put that I like it simply because I don't like the thought of having sex and there's no desire for me to have that thought. I also put that I wasn't sure if I would be a virgin forever but in retrospect I think I will be. The only reason I put that I wasn't sure if I would stay a virgin forever is because you never know what the future might hold and I might do it with someone if we are married and in the relationship for a really really really long time (and then I probably won't because it won't be on our minds)... But you never know.

As far as innocent goes, I don't like talking about anything to do with sex (except for on here where the topic is just common). I'm actually very uncomfortable even thinking about it so saying the word out loud and discussing having sex just freaks me out a bit. One of my friends really enjoys talking about sex and her sex life though so it makes it a bit awkward, but I've just gotten used to nodding about it or laughing when she wants me to. And finally, my virginity is my own business but more-so it is unusual because almost everyone around me has had sex and it's kinda weird that I haven't. But I'm fine with it and I'm fine with being unusual. : )

[Swimfreak660]

I'm a virgin and I would like to keep it that way. I wouldn't say it makes me more innocent than others, I tend to be more innocent that a lot of my friends but only when it comes to pictures or actions but in comments and jokes I'm right with them. I think it's more of my lack of want to loose my virginity that makes me more innocent than my actual virginity.

[Jayde]

I think the idea of virginity (as a concept itself) is really odd… I don't like the history and connotations that it inherently holds. In terms of my virginity I am rather apathetic, I don't feel ashamed but neither do I see it as something to be particularly proud of, sex is just something I have never bothered to pursue... I am definitely not innocent :) I am happy to join in on 'dirty' humour and such and I actually enjoy reading smutty/kinky stuff. As for staying a virgin, sex just doesn't strike me as a particularly big deal (personally speaking. I am well aware that it is a big deal to many people and do not, at all, mean to belittle that importance), if I ever end up in a relationship with someone who is sexual I probably wouldn't be opposed to at least trying it. I am curious about the experience and since having the status of virgin is not important to who I am, I see no problem with 'losing' it.

[Rare Aztec Whstling Chickn]

I still am a virgin myself, I've never come close to it. I'm not fussed over never "losing it". I am how ever a bit fussy over actually "losing it." Sex doesn't shape me, nor hopefully will it shape any relationships I may have. What is it you're actually losing? Some sort of self pride or self honour?

[catsaregood]

What I don't understand and find sad about society is that they are more tolerant of those with 'loose' morals than with virgins. It seems acceptable to disrespect virgins yet one is not allowed to be against those whose morals one does not agree with.

If anything, virginity is put on a pedestal, especially female virginity.

I agree it is, but only to a point - conservative society is comfortable with an 18yr old virgin, a 22yr old virgin, maybe a 26yr old virgin - if you're engaged :) but I think as you get into higher ages they start to think there's something wrong with you - 40yr old? 50yr old? I don't think society believes you're waiting until marriage at that point! Weird, I know, that it should matter so much to society when it's really none of their business!

[Potato]

I wish there was an indifferent option for "do you like being a virgin"

[Vivaldi Ives]

Yes, I enjoy being a virgin. I'm not sure if I'll remain one forever though, but I'm not going to have sex with some random person just to change my virginity status--I'd have to have a better reason! As for being "innocent," I'm not always sure what that means. I think it depends on what the situation is and who is around me making the judgment of how "innocent" I am. For the last question, virginity is unusual for people my age, but it's also my business. No one asks me if I'm a virgin (though occasionally I'm asked if I have a boyfriend or have ever had a boyfriend, which may amount to the same thing in people's minds), and I see no reason to go around proclaiming it. I don't see it as something to be proud of, as I don't actively try to preserve my virginity. I've never had a boyfriend (or any other kind of partner) in the first place who would try to have sex with me, and I've been lucky not to have ever been raped, coerced, or otherwise abused. Avoiding all that isn't really my doing, it's just the whims of fate/God's plan/whatever you want to call it.

[Squirrel Combat]

Being a virgin means I'm in mint condition, baby. :twisted: Like the above post, however, I'm not so innocent, I certainly would have lost it earlier if I had been even remotely successful at scoring victory with anyone, and been aware that people do that so casually. But fate had different plans for me.