saragirl Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 I'm sure many of you know that it can be very hard to find an asexual partner so my question for the ones who did find one is how? I've said before all I want is to find an asexual partner or partners who will live together,split expenses,cuddle with each other,sleep together (non sexual) and just chill if anyone feels the same way, pm me. Link to post Share on other sites
My alias Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 There are asexual dating sites like acebook but those are seeming to lose popularity, more often than not asexuals make compromises with sexual partners... But I feel sometimes that I don't want to compromise or have the constant thought on my mind that Im disappointing somebody, which is why I hope to also find somebody asexual and I know alot of people like me who feel the same. What can one do besides dream...Because asexuals only make up 1% of society we have to look extra hard out in the world! Link to post Share on other sites
Squirrel Combat Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 Yes, it is a small pool from which we must choose from. I'm not going to compromise and even when I have met aces here on AVEN they didn't last, due to us being too different. I know it can happen but it seems to be a one in a million chance. But there have been success stories posted here between two AVENites. So it is possible. Link to post Share on other sites
Maelstrom_17 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 There are asexual dating sites like acebook but those are seeming to lose popularity, more often than not asexuals make compromises with sexual partners... But I feel sometimes that I don't want to compromise or have the constant thought on my mind that Im disappointing somebody, which is why I hope to also find somebody asexual and I know alot of people like me who feel the same. What can one do besides dream...Because asexuals only make up 1% of society we have to look extra hard out in the world! Why did acebook lose popularity? Link to post Share on other sites
littleheartsofjoy Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 Well, in my case, it just happened. I didn't go looking for it, and I didn't expect for one to occur. It just happened that we got to know one another as friends and ended up crushing on one another at some point. Some people have also used meetups as a means, but there's nothing wrong with trying the asexual dating sites, and just befriending people on AVEN and seeing how it goes as well. I am not saying to befriend and expect a relationship, I'm just saying that you should stick around and see how it goes. As mentioned by Squirrel Combat, check out the Success Stories thread! Link to post Share on other sites
Pangali Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 It seems a lot of people are looking for a similar relationship to the one you describe. However finding another asexual who is romantically interested in you and is compatible seems an impossible task. I wouldn't like to be in a relationship with a non asexual person either. I won't compromise on sex and wouldn't like to force someone else to. That wouldn't be fair. It seems a lot of people are looking for a similar relationship to the one you describe. However finding another asexual who is romantically interested in you and is compatible seems an impossible task. I wouldn't like to be in a relationship with a non asexual person either. I won't compromise on sex and wouldn't like to force someone else to. That wouldn't be fair. Link to post Share on other sites
skymessenger Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 Ace's make up around 1% of the world population. There are 8 billion people in the world; unless my math is wrong (probably is) that means it's about 800,000 Ace's in the world. Divide half for male & females, making it 400,000. That's still a lot of people. Odds are, you'll be able to find someone. ...what would be awesome is if Ace's had their own destination. Like this one city/area where a lot of Aces's live/vacation/meetup, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Zash Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 Ace's make up around 1% of the world population. There are 8 billion people in the world; unless my math is wrong (probably is) that means it's about 800,000 Ace's in the world. Divide half for male & females, making it 400,000. That's still a lot of people. Odds are, you'll be able to find someone. ...what would be awesome is if Ace's had their own destination. Like this one city/area where a lot of Aces's live/vacation/meetup, etc. Pedantic math nerd moment: 1% of 8 billion is 80 million. Link to post Share on other sites
Maelstrom_17 Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 Well the population is 7 billion right now.. sorry to burst your bubble.. so more like 70 million people. Which is still a lot. But I'm convinced there's more aces than that since in some parts of the world asexuality isn't very well known at all. Link to post Share on other sites
scottsummers Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 Well the population is 7 billion right now.. sorry to burst your bubble.. so more like 70 million people. Which is still a lot. But I'm convinced there's more aces than that since in some parts of the world asexuality isn't very well known at all. asexuality isn't well known anywhere ;) in reply to this thread I FEEL YOUR PAIN BRO *sis :D Link to post Share on other sites
Maelstrom_17 Posted April 17, 2014 Share Posted April 17, 2014 Well the population is 7 billion right now.. sorry to burst your bubble.. so more like 70 million people. Which is still a lot. But I'm convinced there's more aces than that since in some parts of the world asexuality isn't very well known at all. asexuality isn't well known anywhere ;) in reply to this thread I FEEL YOUR PAIN BRO *sis :D Eh.. I feel like it has a higher probability of being known in countries where LGBT groups are (more) accepted.. Link to post Share on other sites
Tja Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 ^_^ the fact that some of us (if going by the rest of the world it would be around 10%) are homoAsexual...so, 7 million of that 70 million. Link to post Share on other sites
Anime Pancake Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 Alright I think it's tough for anyone to find a partner.Even sexuals can't just hop in a relationship any time that they want to. For asexuals and sexuals, it just happens when it happens.We're at more of a disadvantage, because most of the people we meet are not asexuals, but we still have a chance. It just takes time. Link to post Share on other sites
marki Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 Why doesn't this site have a space for trying to find partners? It seems like this would be the most logical site for people to meet each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Amnesiac Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 Why doesn't this site have a space for trying to find partners? It seems like this would be the most logical site for people to meet each other. Legal reasons I would imagine, especially as people under the age of 18 post frequently. Link to post Share on other sites
marki Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 So why not have an adults only section? Link to post Share on other sites
GhostlyGoo Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 I think searching for an "asexual" is the wrong approach for finding a life partner. Feel free to disagree with me on this, but personally, I would look for a persons personality before their orientation. Its great if two aces hook up because there is that common ground, but at the end of the day Id rather date a sexual Im really compatible with, than an asexual who has no personality (but I date them because they are also asexual). Sure, dating a sexual will come with its challenges, but I'd prefer to take that risk than end up with someone who is the same orientation as me, but has no "spark" to make the relationship deep and meaningful. Chances of finding an ace you are compatible with are slim to none, but that doesn't mean it never happens (1% isn't 0% but its certainly not a very large percentile) it just means that if you narrow your specs to exclusively-asexuals, you are ruling out 99% of the worlds population and there are some real gems in that 99%! If you want to try your luck at ace-dating, go to meet ups, chat on here, since this is where asexuals gather (Not a dating site, but friendships form on here and perhaps you could meet your special someone), but don't rule out sexuals, because there can be compromise, perhaps your sexual partner would try abstaining from sex, it works both ways but if you always set your sights on asexuals, you'll never know if there is a very compatible, willing to compromise, sexual partner for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Amnesiac Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 So why not have an adults only section? What's stopping someone lying about their age? It would be more hassle than it's worth considering there is already Asexual dating sites available. Link to post Share on other sites
marki Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 Well if you are going to meet with someone eventually I wouldn't do it without photos...so it would be hard to lie about that right? Plus this isn't like a dating site where people are doing nothing but lying about themselves....we are much more honest I feel like here. Link to post Share on other sites
The Great WTF Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 Why doesn't this site have a space for trying to find partners? It seems like this would be the most logical site for people to meet each other. No. Too much drama, too many laws, too many ways that it could get AVEN and DJ into deep trouble. It's been discussed many, many times and the answer is and remains no. The legal nightmares that would come from a minor lying about their age alone are reason enough to not touch that idea with a ten foot pole. Link to post Share on other sites
marki Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 Wow so if one stupid kid lies about their age it ruins the whole site? Whatever! Link to post Share on other sites
The Great WTF Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 Wow so if one stupid kid lies about their age it ruins the whole site? Whatever! One stupid kid lying about their age and getting caught in a relationship with an adult by their parents can get this site shut down if it's found we "facilitated" it, so, yes. It will ruin the whole site. Link to post Share on other sites
asexynerdygal Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 I'm looking for something quite similar, it's hard there's finding someone that is ace or at least ace sympathetic and then on top of that they have to be compatible in other ways Link to post Share on other sites
theMOONmonarch Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 Personally, I'd be far too uncomfortable in a relationship with a sexual person for it to have any depth; I'm not willing to compromise on sex in the least and I'd rather not deal with the panic attacks. I'd rather compromise on personality differences with another ace. Link to post Share on other sites
asexynerdygal Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 I've actually been toying with the idea of being open to a poly relationship Link to post Share on other sites
Maelstrom_17 Posted April 23, 2014 Share Posted April 23, 2014 I've actually been toying with the idea of being open to a poly relationship Me too.. in fact you should check out the thread on Poly relationships to learn a bit more... Link to post Share on other sites
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