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Have you attended an AVEN/asexual meetup?


littleheartsofjoy

Asexual meetups  

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  1. 1. Have you attended an AVEN/asexual meetup before?

    • Yes
      40
    • No
      113
  2. 2. If you answered yes to the first question, what did you think about the experience?

    • It was great
      20
    • It was alright
      17
    • It was awkward/awful
      2
    • N/A - I answered No to the first question
      114
  3. 3. If you answered no to the first question, why haven't you?

    • I have no desire to do so
      9
    • I fear awkwardness
      43
    • There isn't one in my area OR the one in my area is too far for me to attend
      68
    • I would rather meet people that I know well, individually
      21
    • I don't interact well with groups
      37
    • I think that I'm too young/old for the group
      20
    • I have another answer not listed (please share)
      22
    • N/A - I answered yes to the first question
      42
  4. 4. To the ones that answered yes, would you go to another one in the future?

    • Yes
      31
    • Maybe, but it depends
      8
    • Nope, the time(s) I went, was enough for me
      1
    • N/A - I answered no to the first question
      113
  5. 5. To the ones that answered no, do you have any plans to change that?

    • Nope
      6
    • Maybe, it depends on various factors
      46
    • Yes, I would like to attend one, one day
      60
    • N/A - I answered yes to the first question
      41
  6. 6. Finally, what do you think about meetups (regardless of if you have attended one or not)?

    • I love the idea, it allows me to meet others who don't instantly desire sex from me
      94
    • I like the idea, but I don't personally care to take part in it
      15
    • I like the idea, but I do better with one on one interaction
      46
    • I like the idea in theory but I would rather meet people who I'm already friends with on AVEN/otherwise
      41
    • I'm indifferent about it, I don't love, like or hate the idea, I don't care that much
      15
    • I'm not a fan of it personally
      1
    • I love/like the idea, but for another reason (please share?)
      15

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littleheartsofjoy

I'm just curious again about how many people who use AVEN, have attended meetups, what they thought about the experience, and how it went. If you haven't, why not? And also, what do you think about them in general?

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Yep, a group of 5-6 of us used to meet up weekly for movies and stuff. Nowadays we meet up every week or two, but it's not all aces. Been to a meet up at the University here too and it was interesting.

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I've attended three meetups. I felt a little left out and different, which is how i tend to feel in groups. I'll probably go to another one anyways.

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I love meet ups, but it's not because people there don't want sex from me :blink:

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I enjoy attending meetups. Since I'm not actually "out" in real life, I don't have a chance to talk about asexuality. Meetups are the perfect chance.

Also, it's a nice way to get my introverted self to meet new people.

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alpacaterpillar

Have you attended an AVEN/asexual meetup before?

No

If you answered no to the first question, why haven't you?

I have no desire to do so

I fear awkwardness

I don't interact well with groups

I have another answer not listed (local meetups are badly timed for me)

To the ones that answered no, do you have any plans to change that?

Maybe, it depends on various factors

Finally, what do you think about meetups (regardless of if you have attended one or not)?

I'm indifferent about it, I don't love, like or hate the idea, I don't care that much

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I'd love to go to a meetup, it's just that I live in Kentucky, where there aren't any meetups I'm aware of, and heteronormativity is so pervasive that it's hard to be "out" about it.

But the one or two aces I've met in real life are, well, ace. So I'd absolutely love to meet more of us. So I'd definitely go to a local meetup, even though I do have social anxiety, just to have a situation where sex is nowhere near the table. I'd probably go to a not-quite-so-local meetup if I had the funds with which to travel.

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I have not attended an AVEN/asexual meet up before because there isn't one in my area. Anyway, I would like to attend one, one day.

However, I do better with one on one interaction. Therefore, I think I might rather meet people who I'm already friends with on AVEN otherwise (but it does not mean I don't want to try a meet up).
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IceHurricane

I've never been to one yet. I've always wanted to go, but I'm too scared. There was one in my city today I believe that I wanted to go to, but backed out last minute due to my shy/awkwardness. :blush:

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I attend every one I can get to ;)

I love them, but mostly because we all share some significant part of our lived experience. I can assume things when talking to people from AVEN that I can't with others. For example, I can say I have two partners and no one really bats an eye. There's an aura of unconditional acceptance that's hard to find elsewhere.

Also, my Vancouver AVENites are like a second family, I've made good friendships and such :D

So many reasons I love my meetups! I can't even think of them all right now.

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I regularly haunt the Bristol meet up threads, but so far I've been too chicken to post or actually go to a meet. :blush:
I really really wanted to go to the charity shop meet a while back and my Mum has been trying to persuade me to go for ages but something just keeps stopping me. Maybe I'm worried people won't like me or I'll be the old gal in the corner or something.

It's weird because I'm not at all shy in real life and I usually get on with most people, so I have no idea what the hell is making me so reticent. :ph34r:

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the bumbling rotifer

I've been to one in edinburgh, which was really, really fantastic.

I'd really like to get to another one, but it's a long way and the trains are really expensive :/

As to why it was fantastic, the people were great! Nothing to do with them not wanting to have sex with me. It would never occur to me that anyone would want to have sex with me anyway.

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I regularly haunt the Bristol meet up threads, but so far I've been too chicken to post or actually go to a meet. :blush:

I really really wanted to go to the charity shop meet a while back and my Mum has been trying to persuade me to go for ages but something just keeps stopping me. Maybe I'm worried people won't like me or I'll be the old gal in the corner or something.

It's weird because I'm not at all shy in real life and I usually get on with most people, so I have no idea what the hell is making me so reticent. :ph34r:

There is a Bristol meet on the 19th, you should come, its fun, age is not a issue. Dave wears purple so you know its him, you can PM someone to meet before the meet one to one so you know someone. Our meets are meet at cafe , get food, do something that helps people talk this time its bowling. You don't have to play or stay but what have you got to lose but a few hour and maybe gain a few new friends

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Notte stellata

I've never attended an asexual meetup. I used to want to attend one, but there wasn't/isn't an meetup near me. Now, I'm not so into the idea anyway, because statistically speaking, I'm no more likely to be friends with an asexual than with a sexual. I'd rather meet up with AVENites I'm already friends with. I also prefer one-on-one or small group interactions.

That said, if there was an asexual meetup near me, I might attend at least once to see what it's like, but I wouldn't expect to make any close friends from the meetup (it might happen, but I wouldn't count on it).

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I have, multiple times :) Ith and I basically organise all the Rome meetups there are. They're pretty nice and I've made some good friendships through AVEN, although I'm more keen on meeting up with people I already know than complete strangers. That said, I won't turn a meetup with strangers down, either - I'll just expect less from it.

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I don't think there are any meetups close to where I live. Even if so, I'm not sure I would attend one. Maybe if the group was tiny and not just complete strangers.

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I'm too far away from any of them to attend, but I'd certainly like to one day...

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If there ever was one on the island I live on, I'd probably try to go just for the experience. But otherwise, it's not really within my means atm to go traveling around just to attend one, and even if it was, I'd probably rather make use of the travel to visit certain people specifically, rather than attend a gathering of them (unless said people would also be at said gathering).

I'm not really one for crowds of people, but... I wouldn't imagine most of these meetups are huge gatherings to begin with >_>

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1. Yes.

2. It was alright.

3. I answered yes to the first question.

4. It depends.

5. I answered yes to the first question.

6. I love/like the idea.

I've been to two. I enjoyed them as much as I can enjoy social interaction. It was difficult, awkward at times, and it made me realise that socialising really isn't my cup of tea. There are many AVENites that I would love to meet but I know that will be almost impossible. It would be far easier for me to meet those British members and if a Banning Thread or a Suing Thread, meet was put together, then count me in ^_^

I love that others attend meet ups. It is sometimes nice to just read about meet ups in the meet forum. I think it is wonderful that they can bring people together. That is what I find so special about AVEN. Bringing people together.

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I have never been and have no intention of doing so. I love you guys but I don't do socialising. I only venture outside if I really have to such as for medical appointments and similar important things.

I am indifferent to meetups. I neither love nor hate them.

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I've attended one in the south-east of Spain this year. We were 8. It was nice to meet all the people, they are great. Then it was a second meeting. And some of us met one on one too.

I want to repeat and to meet more people in a national meeting (trip) that we are going to organize in Spain. I would like to know personally all the aces I use to talk with on the internet.

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Tabula Rasa

I have been to three meetups, and plan to attend one regularly now that I know they meet once a month.

Hanging out with people who understand me is a breath of fresh air, and the fact that they don't instantly desire sex from me is a nice bonus.

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I tried to make one but everyone stood me up so I am trying to do it again.

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I tried to make one but everyone stood me up so I am trying to do it again.

Keep at it :) I have found that asexual's tend to be a little more shy, than most. And that can lead to some last minute nerves. There was a meet up that I attended, where 98% dropped out ^_^ We decided to cancel but we both came back for the next one and it worked out great.

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Waist of Thyme

Have you attended an AVEN/asexual meetup before?

No.

If you answered no to the first question, why haven't you?

I can't drive and I'd have no way of getting to one without my parents knowing.

To the ones that answered no, do you have any plans to change that?

I'd like to go to one, if I find a way to do so without my parents knowing. By the time that happens, people will probably just be able to teleport anyway. But if I never go to one, that's ok too. I'd like to, but it's not a big deal to me.

Finally, what do you think about meetups (regardless of if you have attended one or not)?

I like the idea. It lets people with a similar interest get together who otherwise may have never met each other.

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arcaneEnthusiast

Because I'm only 15 there's basically no way I could feasibly go to a meet up without telling my parents, and I'm seriously not ready to come out.

Maybe if I meet someone else who's ace we could go together and figure that stuff out, but until then...

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I regularly haunt the Bristol meet up threads, but so far I've been too chicken to post or actually go to a meet. :blush:

I really really wanted to go to the charity shop meet a while back and my Mum has been trying to persuade me to go for ages but something just keeps stopping me. Maybe I'm worried people won't like me or I'll be the old gal in the corner or something.

It's weird because I'm not at all shy in real life and I usually get on with most people, so I have no idea what the hell is making me so reticent. :ph34r:

There is a Bristol meet on the 19th, you should come, its fun, age is not a issue. Dave wears purple so you know its him, you can PM someone to meet before the meet one to one so you know someone. Our meets are meet at cafe , get food, do something that helps people talk this time its bowling. You don't have to play or stay but what have you got to lose but a few hour and maybe gain a few new friends

Thanks Anakin. ^_^ Sadly funds won't permit me this time, but I hereby promise that I will grow a pair soon and join you guys. :P

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I've never attended an asexual/AVEN meetup.

(did have the chance to go to one last month, but didn't end up going)

But I'm also fairly new here, plus I'm kinda shy & sorta socially awkward.

Those 2 ofcourse make me alittle hesitant of new things -=just in general=-

Thinking of the somewhat-local one last month .. I was tempted, but in addition to mentioned above...

I'm sure I'm far older than everyone else who would be there, so that did add a bit of hesitation

The weather was cold & snowy that day so I never left the house anyway LOL

Maybe if they do another I'll have to think about it.

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I haven´t. I met two people from local asexual website (not AVEN). I don´t like where there´s too much of people somewhere, I don´t know who to talk to, it´s awkward, so I prefer meeting only one person who was my on-line friend before. And there were people I would rather NEVER meet irl. :mad:

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