People preserving your "innocence"

[Pikanyaa]

Thought this might be something aces can relate to, though it might deal more with personality than sexuality. I tried to make the poll as voter-friendly as possible, but there are so many ways this topic can go. Also allowing multiple responses so hopefully people won't spam the "It completely depends on the situation" option. (Keyword- "completely")

People often think I'm innocent do to my timid niceness, but talk about sex doesn't bother me in most cases unless it's pornographic (with I think most people would be not okay with anyway). Therefore when I say something suggestive or drop a swear, sometimes people I know will be like "WAAAAT". It's kind of amusing in that sense. However, when people purposefully avoid talking about adult things around me, it gets annoying fast. I'm 21, not a freaking kid. At least, I'm a lot less innocent than I used to be. (I outright never swore when I was a teen. Now I'm much more loose with language, especially online, but I never use it against the person I'm talking to.)

[Philip027]

Yep and yep. I'm a prude.

When it comes to profanity, I may be more liberal about using it on the internet, but people who actually know me in person know that I don't swear unless I'm seriously fuckin pissed, and they tend to react accordingly if they hear it.

[Crealityisabeast]

it drives me crazy that my co workers think that i'm innocent. they've actually stopped a conversation when i've walked by and go 'oh, creality's here, we cant talk about that unless we want a sexual harassment lawsuit'. it's so irritating!

but then again, i'm so sick of hearing them talk about sex! seriously! all the time! but they do this thing where they wont say something when i'm around, but maybe an hour later they'll ask really personal questions about sex.

they drive me crazy. sorry, i rambled a bit.

[littleheartsofjoy]

Yep and yep. I'm a prude.

When it comes to profanity, I may be more liberal about using it on the internet, but people who actually know me in person know that I don't swear unless I'm seriously fuckin pissed, and they tend to react accordingly if they hear it.

What he said really.

Sometimes I use more profanity in my head, though. Not for every word ever, but things that might upset me or annoy me, it's the first words that come to mind.

For question 1, I answered yes and it depends. Because I'm a prude as well, talking about sex, I don't want to hear it, but at the same time, I don't want to be a killjoy when a group is talking about it. People just know not to talk about it one on one with me.

As for the 2nd question, I put that it depends. Some people are more likely not to talk about it, and then other people are. Profanity, I'm indifferent to, unless it's like every other word in a sentence.

[Forossa Lion Knight]

I curse like a fucking sailor, online and offline. Mad or not. In real life I can barely go one sentence without saying fuck or shit.

But hearing someone talk about sex makes me sick, and most people don't understand that. Hell, I don't think ANYONE does, except me.

Its two completely different things. I use to know some girls in high school who would never curse, not even saying damn or ass or anything, but they spent an entire lunch period discussing oral sex.

It was disturbing.

[romantic-woman]

i don't have problem talking about it in a general topic but i cannot stand hearing of others details for sex or their sexual behaviour and life. Some of them can respect me and don't talk about it but some others don't have any problem to say really disgusting things so when i say omg i can't believe that...! they are like " hey all people do it, it is normal, lets say more about it" ....

[Braydin]

The social expectations that males are not innocent, prevents me from the 'surprised' option if I talk about something crass, crude or lewd.

[Diorite]

I'm uncomfortable with talking about sex if we're talking about me, but I'm totally fine with giving others advice when it comes to dating and sex as long as it doesn't get graphic. I also hate swearing. And people don't mind talking about sex using foul language around me even though I hate. It's kinda complicated. It depends on the person too.

[Falcom92]

Many people think that I'm innocent, when honestly...I've seen it all. Really. I have way too many friends who are very sharing about their various kinks and the porn that comes along with it, and truly nothing RE: sex surprises me anymore. I don't particularly care for those conversations, or am even very comfortable with those conversations, but hey. Whatever. I can have them, which I don't think people I know in person realize.

RE: profanity...I don't actually use it much when talking offline, so that may contribute to why people think I'm innocent. Clearly they've never met my online personality, though.

Also, for the most part people in person try not to talk about sex with me, or use profane language around me, because they think I'm some lovely little angel that isn't meant to hear these kind of repulsive conversations. Or something. I have no idea, but people seem to think that I'm extremely innocent and will have a heart attack if these conversations happen around me. Which is ridiculous, honestly. I lived with very sexual, and very profane/drug-friendly people for a year. I can handle it, really.

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[Guest]

_{I have never considered myself as innocent person. I curse a lot and sex talks and jokes seems to me very funny and makes me so amused.}

[waffleupmynostril]

I swear a lot but since I'm usually quiet when I first meet people, they tend to be surprised by that.

As for the topic of sex, I have the humor a stereotypical heterosexual 7th grade boy. I make sex jokes all the time, and I'm very open to discussions about sex...as long as they aren't about me. (Though if I'm comfortable around the person, I will make exceptions). I've always found my humor quite ironic considering that I can almost never experience sexual attraction.

[5_♦♣]

I don't consider myself innocent at all, but I guess because I'm naturally quiet, people assume I am and are therefore surprised when I swear. And I really hate it when people censor their langauge around me (example: Saying fuck then going, oh, I mean fudge).

[Dirge]

My friends tend to bring up the subject on purpose. They know that, while it doesn't seriously upset me, I find it as annoying as anything else in which I have no real interest.

That is when I bomb the conversation with something deadpan, explicit, and equally repulsive to them. Usually shuts them up for a while and reminds them that, while I may not be interested in sex, I always have something of an interest in seriously creeping them out.

[TheKindredSoul]

Too much sex talk and vulgar language can get to me, but I try to ignore it. I do not mind the occasional relationship talk, but if it gets too deep, I do not like it.

I am not interested in hearing all the intimate details of someone's sex life, but if a good friend is in need, I cannot turn them down.

Oh, and people preserve my innocence all the time. Not all of them do, but most do. Most times their sex jokes and language go over my head, so I cannot understand anyway.

I remember asking what "head" was and both of my friends in health class told me not to worry about it (no doubt the meaning was a sexual one since the topic was human growth and development).

In the same class, we were watching a movie on our last day before spring break. There were a few sex scene in it (I do not like sex scenes). Each time one came up, my friend would twist my head away.

I did not mind it, since sex scenes repulse me.

I am even teased on AVEN sometimes. For example, I said I was happy for no reason, and I called these spontaneous bouts of happiness "happy bursts". Someone teased me about that, and it took me awhile to realize why he was. I said a whole bunch of other stuff that qualified as a "double entendres" without realizing it. It was a strange day. -_-

I think part of the reason why people treat me this way is due to my exterior appearance, since I look like a child. My voice also makes me child-like too (high pitch, soft girl voice). My personality also adds onto my "pureness". The combination of all these components make me seem like a child-like and pure person. I am kind of innocent though, since I fail to understand sexual innuendoes and jokes. I also do not use profanity. I cringe at sexual things.

[Prairie]

I used to act the innocent part because I was uncomfortable with sexual things. Now that I'm fairly well-versed and know that I don't care for it, I treat it like talk of sports or other boring things and ignore it. Well, unless someone is actually interested in self-growth, then I might offer my outsider's perspective.

[noctiscaelum]

I honestly swear like a sailor both online as offline, but when people start discussing their sex lives I'd like to be as far away from them as possible. I really don't need to know what new positions you and your boyfriend tried the other day.

[AnomalyEternal]

I kind of have the opposite reaction to being disgusted depending on the conversation. If someone is talking about or describing genitalia, but not sex itself I get all giggly. Not because I'm immature, I just find it really funny that people talk about that kind of stuff (which they do). Like, in sex ed class I kept laughing at the worst of times. I said out loud, unintentionally, that I thought the female reproductive system looked like a praying mantis head and had a laughing fit. But as soon as sexual intercourse of any kind is mentioned I hightail it outta there. Ewwww.

I try not to swear, though I say shit/crap a lot, I don't say anything more explicit. My friends don't actively avoid talking about sex when I'm around. Apparently they find my varying reactions humorous.

[Pikanyaa]

I am even teased on AVEN sometimes. For example, I said I was happy for no reason, and I called these spontaneous bouts of happiness "happy bursts". Someone teased me about that, and it took me awhile to realize why he was. I said a whole bunch of other stuff that qualified as a "double entendres" without realizing it. It was a strange day. -_-

Haha, I had something like that happen to me on another site once. I wanted to express friendly sympathy to someone, so I put a kitty face with sympathetic eyebrows in my comment- <=3

Someone pointed out that smiley looked wrong and once I realized after a few moments of confusion what she meant, I never used it again.

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[WhenSummersGone]

No and no. I have a sexual history so I don't feel innocent anymore, and I have a curious mind about some things. My family talks about everything and I don't mind. I'm trying to not swear too much though.

[Satin]

Its not about innocence or preserving innocence in my opinion. Its about vulgarity or finesse. You can be worldly-wise without being vulgar.

This. I don't feel innocent or anything and I don't mind sex-talk when it's not happening in a vulgar way. Swearing I try to avoid as much as I can.

[Guest]

No and No.

People do say I'm innocent in some way or another, and I guess I do have a latent naiveté somehow, but I never have a problem talking about sex and related things. I do use technical terms and avoid specific terminology when I can, but it's not much of an issue for me so long as I can talk about it in a "politically correct" way (mind, I don't care about political correctness for most other things).

[Void in Color]

Overall, I tend to be pretty okay and open around it. I just really don't like it when people are blatantly crude, for sheer shock value. People sometimes seem to think I'm innocent, but I just really don't care about that stuff either way, so I don't go out of my way to learn about it. People tend to get surprised when I know stuff. For example, I guy I'm working with said something about herpes today, to which I replied that about 80% of the population has herpes (oral though, not genital). The rest of the group just looked at me in shock and thought that it was creepy that I knew that off the top of my head, and that of all the things one could have said in response, they did not expect that. In my opinion, it was perfectly logical, but hey, people.

[Hikuroi]

In 9th grade I was very innocent but one of my friends changed that by telling dirty jokes in front of me and explaining them when I didn't get it. But all through high school people were like trying to explain every joke or wanting me to prove that I understood the joke and it was so annoying. One guy always tried not to swear or make dirty jokes around me because he didn't want to ruin my innocence but he was like 2 years late. I want people to be themselves around me so they will want to be around me, if everything offends me they wont want me around because they will have to watch what they say the whole time.

[noparlpf]

I don't have a "kinky mind". I just have no problem with clinical or humorous discussions of sexual or other topics.

[LaMaestra]

I have no problem either. And as for off colour language, I frequently use it and actually enjoy doing so! Sometimes only a good ould swear will do.

[DexM]

^^^ :lol: :lol: :lol: ^^^

I too, admit to loving a good swear session. It's very cathartic. But it has a time and a place. I don't harass old ladies at bus stops when being p****d off at the f*****g bus not arriving on f******g time :P I would be the most hypocritical man alive if I were to sensor anyone's cussing.

I wouldn't consider myself as being innocent, far from it in fact, but people do now know that I don't really want to hear about sexual exploits or who's hot and who's not. I have no interest and people don't talk about it, in the same way that they wouldn't talk about Formula 1 racing or The X Factor.

[LaMaestra]

Great reply, Dex.

I, too, am choosy respecting before whom I curse. I will never curse before children as it is setting a bad example and also because of how easily they pick up that which you'd rather they didn't! Also I will never curse before those who genuinely find it offensive out of respect for them, especially if they are a person for whom I have a high regard anyway.

[damondear]

I've always been very innocent - didn't know what "the f-word" was until I was 12, didn't know what it meant until a year later, still never say the word out loud or even in writing... but I'm becoming less innocent; I don't mind people swearing or making dirty jokes around me anymore (heck, I love dirty jokes), I still don't swear myself but I do occasionally make dirty jokes, I've read a few smutty fanfics and webcomics and enjoyed them, and I've overheard people talking about sex and it only made me uncomfortable because I felt like I was hearing things I shouldn't hear. I also have a bit of a fascination with kinks and fetishes. I still consider myself relatively innocent, but I'm much more "normal" than I used to be. I guess my main reasons for calling myself innocent are that I don't swear and I'm generally not interested in sexual things unless they're in a joke or between fictional characters (I'm generally apathetic when it comes to sex between actual people, and repulsed if it involves me - and even with fictional characters I usually prefer to see them cuddling innocently).

My best friends both swear a lot, and for a while they avoided swearing around me, but I let them know that they didn't have to hold back around me. I think most other people assume that I'm innocent and try to "preserve my innocence", and honestly I'm grateful for that; listening to someone I barely know talking about sex would just be awkward. .u.;

[binary suns]

I'm generally pretty quiet... there have been numerous occasions when I said something sexual or w/e and people was like woah you says stuff like that and I was like well duh doesn't everone

which isn't that a weird exchange now I say it?