vega57 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 13 minutes ago, Wish Bear 🌠said: I concluded that the rest of the world has something wrong with it, too. From a religious point of view, the rest of the world DOES have something wrong with it! It's the asexuals that are the 'good' ones! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 Just now, vega57 said: From a religious point of view, the rest of the world DOES have something wrong with it! It's the asexuals that are the 'good' ones! I honestly am grossed out by how almost everyone is driven by lust. It influences people's behaviors and they are often obsessive and disrespectful. That isn't exclusive to sexuals, though. There can still be romantic lust.  Greed also sickens me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sera1001 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 On 3/20/2014 at 8:15 AM, Philip027 said: In all honesty, I've tended to look at it as it being something "wrong" with everyone else rather than myself. I felt normal; it was everyone else that seemed weird. It gradually sunk in, though, that I was not the normal one. Literally me xD 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Marrow Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 I don't think there was anything really wrong I just thought everyone else hadn't gotten a control over their hormones ( I was always told that I acted very mature for my age back then Ex: I would discuss politics with adults at age 13) 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sylvastor Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 5 minutes ago, Marrow said: I just thought everyone else hadn't gotten a control over their hormones That's pretty much the "wrong" I mentioned in my post. It's strange to imagine their "sexual emotions" can be so strong that they don't have much control over them. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 It's possible to have control over them, people just lack self-control in general. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sera1001 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 1 hour ago, Wish Bear 🌠said: It's possible to have control over them, people just lack self-control in general. That makes me even want to get away from them more Other stuff that would make me get away from having relationships are one of those reasons as my defense XD "they want sex" so let's get away from those chances. But from where i grew up, sex wasn't really a big thing like i only ever heard dirty stuff from high schoolers and even from my classmates, heard rumors like they're watching porn but that's all i ever knew as a kid. I never went to high school so i didn't know the existence of sexual attraction. I know a lot of people who aren't aces probably wouldn't want sex sooo badly but i'm sure there's still a lot of them who are. When people gave me a bit of a perverted look, i saw it more as they "imagine me naked" and that's it :/ Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 @Sera1001Â Trust your instincts. If you are feeling uncomfortable around someone, then you are subconsciously picking up on the fact that something is not right. I would get away from them. Not everyone is untrustworthy but anyone who is trying to push you into doing anything isn't someone you should trust. I was also very sheltered and unaware of the rest of the world. It doesn't help being an asexual because you can't possibly imagine what is going through their heads. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Kersenne Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Most of the time, I just thought I hadn't met the right person yet. On 21/03/2014 at 4:34 AM, Celestine said: I thought everyone was secretly asexual and only faking an interest in sex. Bit of a shock when I found out otherwise. o_O And I felt this way too when I found out people were really, seriously into sex! I also thought it was something you had to do to have children and then, basta, you never had to do it again^^  I can't remember now if I ever felt something was biologically wrong with me. I read my diaries again and found all clues about my questionnings - for a time I wondered if I wasn't a lesbian because I felt no desire to have sex, or perhaps bisexual. I tried to put names on how I was feeling but nothing felt right. In all the things I wrote, I can now see all the clues saying "I'm asexual". So I just kept thinking that I had to meet the One to want to have sex (and although I've met wonderful partners, sex has never felt right). Mostly I lied to myself, pretended I liked sex (the few times I did it), pretended I would get into it and find it awesome (the same way my friends spoke about it).  For a long time I also honestly thought everyone was lying about how sex felt good and how great it was. I mean, how could that be true when I never felt sexual attraction and could not imagine myself having sex in any pleasant way? Now that I know I'm asexual, I can understand that sexual people enjoy sex, and I'm happy I don't have to enjoy it. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
SpaceDustbin Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 I always thought I had a massive fear of commitment . Like... I have been in love with people, but when things got too serious and too close, I ran as fast as I could, because committing in a relationship generally equals sex at some point, which is a big nope. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gloomy Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 I used to think not wanting relationships or sex was just part of my social anxiety. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Enne Kristin Posted November 2, 2017 Share Posted November 2, 2017 I wanted a romantic relationship, but without the sexual parts... i once told a girl how i felt and she said I was mad ... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
VirginRose Posted November 28, 2017 Share Posted November 28, 2017 I thought I was a fridged heartless bitch. Then again that was my self loathing talking. I also thought everyone was perverted. Then I realized I'm kinky, but don't want sex. So I'm a hypocrite on one hand. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Groobly Posted November 28, 2017 Share Posted November 28, 2017 I went through phases. The first time I encountered my dislike of sex, I thought I'd eventually get over it and I was too young for it. After that didn't happen, I thought maybe I was going after the wrong kinds of people and maybe I was gay...definite no there. Then, I spent a long time thinking there was something genuinely wrong with me health wise and I felt very depressed about it for a long time, and tried forcing myself to like sex related things, even tried finally fantasizing about sex, but it never felt right and my fantasies were very unrealistic. Eventually I finally started considering asexuality, and here I am. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gladstone Posted November 28, 2017 Share Posted November 28, 2017 I didn't think there is something wrong with me. Not even once. I was just proud that I wasn't interested in romance, boys and stuff, that I'm so-not-like-a-statistic-girl. Oh, well. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Stargazer365 Posted December 2, 2017 Share Posted December 2, 2017 I had a conversation with my brother about three years ago, before I knew what asexuality was. It was one of the first serious talks we had, mostly about relationships. I can remember telling him that since I had never been in any type of relationship, that for most of my life I've felt that there was something wrong with me. That since I was born prematurely maybe something inside my brain didn't get formed properly. I can remember from a very young age thinking that I had to become a nun since I didn't want what everyone else seems to want. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BlueHairedFairy Posted December 4, 2017 Share Posted December 4, 2017 I didn't personally think anything was "wrong" with me. I just thought that I was more sophisticated than others who could think of nothing but sex. I thought everyone else was off (ha, ha, ha). I was just always wondering why people kept telling me that someday I would meet someone. It made me feel a bit like I was worthless until I met someone. Even though I identify as female, that does not mean that I am nothing until I find a partner. I wish people understood this... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Light18 Posted December 4, 2017 Share Posted December 4, 2017 I thought I had a chemical imbalance or that anti-depressants had messed things up. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
giorno Posted December 4, 2017 Share Posted December 4, 2017 either the antidepressants had killed any semblance of my sex drive or it was a fear of intimacy/commitment. turned out both were wrong. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Fantastic Name Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 On 3/20/2014 at 1:15 AM, Philip027 said: In all honesty, I've tended to look at it as it being something "wrong" with everyone else rather than myself. I felt normal; it was everyone else that seemed weird. It gradually sunk in, though, that I was not the normal one. I thought it was a combination of this and everyone just pretending to like it to be "edgy" or whatever. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BooTheArtist Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 I thought it was wrong that I didn't have the urges like everyone else to have sex. And when my significant other at the time would talk about sex or get physical with me in any way, I would try to make myself feel something. Telling myself that I was supposed to do this, cause this is what normal people do. Â It was a very confusing times, that's for sure. Â Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lucas Monteiro Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 On 29/10/2017 at 3:21 PM, Wish Bear 🌠said: I honestly am grossed out by how almost everyone is driven by lust. It influences people's behaviors and they are often obsessive and disrespectful.  Why people have this necessity to always try to see that the others are the wrong ones and they are the right ones ? There is no right or wrong. It's so ironic how people from minority when in an community they just do what the others in majority do, judge the others and even can end oppressing. I see that happening at AVEN sometimes, I am sick of that, will never understand why people feel that they have to be better than the others or they are better because their a/sexuality. I am sorry if you didn't meant to say that. But if you truly think that you can be better than the others just because you don't do sex, you are no better than the people saying they are better because they do sex. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Malllia Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 i thought i was bisexual and just not ready, but my friend asked me if i was asexual, and after researching i knew that i most likely was. i didn't really have a sexual attraction to anybody but i did date people, but not in a sexual way. i think im bi-romantic asexual though now. i am not completely grossed out by the idea of sex and may have it if i decide to have kids, but i will only be romantically attracted to my partner and not sexually attracted. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 @Lucas Monteiro I was partially goofing around and exaggerating, but I meant what I said about most people being driven by lust. It's not sex that I have a problem with, but lust. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 I thought it was a result of wanting to be a girl and perhaps also due to dissociation because of sexual abuse and bullying. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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Lucas Monteiro Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 2 hours ago, Wish Bear 🌠said: @Lucas Monteiro I was partially goofing around and exaggerating, but I meant what I said about most people being driven by lust. It's not sex that I have a problem with, but lust. Yeah, I guess in that part you are right. I am sorry for not understanding at first what you meant, it's just that some people here at AVEN are really using elitism when talking about how asexuals are better than people who do sex. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 @Lucas Monteiro It's cool, I can see how someone would take that the wrong way. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Shadowstepper Posted December 5, 2017 Share Posted December 5, 2017 I was so obviously different in the way I could recognize attractiveness, but not feel the attraction, that I started questioning if maybe my mind just didn't process information in a way that allowed me to be attracted to anything.  Like, if I can't be attracted to people, do I really have cravings for specific foods? Do I actually have a favorite color? Do I have a favorite song? Or are all of these things just instances where I've recognized positive aspects and assumed that meant I liked it? Maybe I am just unable to have strong feelings toward anything. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
012 Posted December 19, 2017 Share Posted December 19, 2017 On 3/6/2017 at 5:57 PM, Puck said: I think it just shows that we don't fully understand how sexuals feel. Yup, very true. And they can't understand how we feel lol 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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