Relationship questions

[The A Life Team]

Relationships. They seem to be a big deal in society, but what about for asexuals? On the show we talk about topics about how a romantic relationship is different from a friendship, asexual/sexual relationships, age differences, and more.

Please do add your thoughts about the subject, but I urge you to listen to the show first. It will considerably clarify the poll and give tons of thought-provoking entertainment. You can find the show here:

http://alifepodcast.wordpress.com/

[Wineblood]

When should you mention you're asexual to your date?

When the time seems right.

You can't really pick a "date" when to tell the person you're dating because some couples will more often than others and get to know each other faster. Also some couples will have known each other for a while and might know about one's asexuality even before they start dating.

One of the options was "when it comes up in conversation", I think that's the worst time to tell someone. At least when on a date, the relationship is moving forward and some new things should be shared, so maybe on that date is the point where the other person should know. Just telling them because it's come up in conversation means that its not something that's been chosen or planning, possibly before they're ready to talk about it.

Do you think there is a difference between friends and partners in asexual relationships?

Of course!

Of course there is. Everything I'd say about this was pretty much covered in the podcast, but also that relationships tend to be one at a time whereas we can have a multitude of friends. Having new friends isn't a betrayal of old friends, whereas in a relationship that's quite different.

Is age just a number?

Depends on the relationship.

It does depend. Of course a big age difference would lead to people having different mentalities and not being very compatible. There the age difference would just be an indication of this.

Then again age is something specific to the body and not always to the mind, so two people 10 years apart might be better than two people of the same age. It does depend on the people and the relationship.