tmentour Posted May 20, 2009 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Some sexual people get a little confused, just so we can all be consistent here, giv me ur word-for-word def. Link to post Share on other sites
Gotanks0407 Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 um you look at someone and they give you a "wowzer in your trousers"....its not a word for word but i like to use that as my little explaination.. Link to post Share on other sites
ProdeFemme Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 A desire to be physically intimate with another person. Not quite as eloquent as wowzer in your trousers but you know, same general idea...(I'm kidding Gotanks! I couldn't resist ;) ) Anyway, that's my definition. Link to post Share on other sites
Sally Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 And it's a more gender-neuter definition, also! ("Wowser?!") Link to post Share on other sites
perplexasex Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Visuals of sex come to mind when "sex" is said. As soon as a an attractive person walks into the room, immediate fantasies of sex. At least that is what my sexual friends describe their experiences are. Link to post Share on other sites
Astryda Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 It's when you feel sexually aroused by certain's person look or/and personality. Link to post Share on other sites
rahuls Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 Visuals of sex come to mind when "sex" is said. As soon as a an attractive person walks into the room, immediate fantasies of sex. At least that is what my sexual friends describe their experiences are. I wouldn't say that having immediate fantasy of sex is the best attribute here. For, human thoughts are unrestrained and an asexual could also end up having a fantasy of romance but that is mainly to appeal to the senses and not the "wowser on the trousers". Hence, the only factor of asexuality is absence of sexual arousal. Just think of it a little bit more, I think it's confusing but there is a blurred distinction as well. Link to post Share on other sites
perplexasex Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 I don't have visuals or fantasies of sex when it's mentioned or when I see an attractive person. What's there more to think about? Now if someone told me to concentrate thinking about sex, then yeah I could visualize it, but it's certainly not a fantasy. It's just not where my mind goes. BTW Fantasies of romance is different than fantasies of sex. Link to post Share on other sites
ThePieMaker Posted May 21, 2009 Share Posted May 21, 2009 um you look at someone and they give you a "wowzer in your trousers"....its not a word for word but i like to use that as my little explaination.. I'm going to start using this, I hope you don't mind? Link to post Share on other sites
perplexasex Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 Yeah, one of my friends and I were discussing this when I finally found out about my asexuality. We were out and about. We saw a really good looking guy. She asked me what do I immediately think of when I see him. I said that he was cute and that was about it. She said that she could see herself just ripping off his clothes and doing naughty things to him. It was one of those "yeah I'm asexual" moments. ^_^ Link to post Share on other sites
toujours Posted May 22, 2009 Share Posted May 22, 2009 Yeah, one of my friends and I were discussing this when I finally found out about my asexuality. We were out and about. We saw a really good looking guy. She asked me what do I immediately think of when I see him. I said that he was cute and that was about it. She said that she could see herself just ripping off his clothes and doing naughty things to him. It was one of those "yeah I'm asexual" moments. ^_^ Is this like... for real? Seriously? Link to post Share on other sites
tsuris Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 um you look at someone and they give you a "wowzer in your trousers"....its not a word for word but i like to use that as my little explaination.. So you are saying that sexual attraction is based primarily on visual? Couldn't there be various other attributes of a person that could make them sexually attractive? Could a person be sexually attracted to someone based on other things? Link to post Share on other sites
you*hear*but*do*you*listen Posted May 25, 2009 Share Posted May 25, 2009 Maybe we should ask one of our resident sexual AVENites to answer this. Link to post Share on other sites
sonofzeal Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 So you are saying that sexual attraction is based primarily on visual? Couldn't there be various other attributes of a person that could make them sexually attractive? Could a person be sexually attracted to someone based on other things? Guys are highly visual in this area, though there are exceptions. Anecdotal evidence suggests that girls are more varied here, and that smell is an important sense for them when it comes to sexuality. And I've known at least one girl who found particular voices to be highly arousing, and used music instead of visual porn. Link to post Share on other sites
AVENCakes Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 It's a bit hard. Hm. I think more in terms of attraction leading to desire, a person you're attracted to you desire being with them in the manner of the attraction. So, by that note, sexula attraction would be an attraction that causes you to desire sexual contact with the person. It can go along iwth a lot of things, and I'm thinking aesthetic attraction is a big one that goes hand in hand with sexual attraction. You might be romantically, physically, intellectually, even platonically attracted as well as sexually- and that's probably the difficulty. Most people don't experience any one kind of attraction solely, so they associate the other ones they experience with that attraction. Most sexuals, it seems, are only romantically attracted to those they're sexually attracted to- so it's hard to detangle the two. What causes it is a different thing, and varies- some people find X sexy, for others Y totally turns them on, etc. I don't know ifs exual attraction=horniness=lust. I'd imagine you can find someoen sexy without getting aroused, even though you can see yourself wanting to do arousing things witht he person- but I don't know. Link to post Share on other sites
KristineM Posted May 26, 2009 Share Posted May 26, 2009 Some sexual people get a little confused, just so we can all be consistent here, giv me ur word-for-word def. I'm new to this forum, but to answer the question I've never really been able to describe or even understand sexual attraction. Link to post Share on other sites
zwitterion Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 A desire to be physically intimate with another person. Not quite as eloquent as wowzer in your trousers but you know, same general idea...(I'm kidding Gotanks! I couldn't resist ;) ) Anyway, that's my definition. Is this right? Cause I sometimes want to kiss or hug hot guys, and that's physical intimacy. But shouldn't sexual attraction just mean wanting the sex with them? *is confused* Link to post Share on other sites
naelNY Posted May 28, 2009 Share Posted May 28, 2009 A desire to be physically intimate with another person. Not quite as eloquent as wowzer in your trousers but you know, same general idea...(I'm kidding Gotanks! I couldn't resist ;) ) Anyway, that's my definition. Is this right? Cause I sometimes want to kiss or hug hot guys, and that's physical intimacy. But shouldn't sexual attraction just mean wanting the sex with them? *is confused* ditto! i don't see how being physically intimate with someone implies sexual attraction. physical attraction is different from sexual (and gender) attraction. i've desired to kiss someone all over their body, however i've not desired sexual activity with them to the least. if anything, i might be sexually repelled to their urinary organ. sexual: physically involving either/or/both penis, vagina. physical: physically all other parts. Link to post Share on other sites
carrottopgirl399 Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 naelNY- Yeah, I totally understand and experience the same thing! I'm super "touchy," and it translates into, you know, what's supposed to be sexual activity. I like kissing, too. It's weirded some people out. But I'm not particularly fond of interaction with genitalia, mine or otherwise. Then again, I don't really know about sexual identity; I've got a whole lot of exploring to do before I'll understand how I identify. But I identify with this one piece of intimate experience that someone else enjoys, as well. I have a place to start-- ha! Link to post Share on other sites
Devil Kisses Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 When I'm attracted to a girl I feel warm and fuzzy inside. I might think of romantic stuff, but I don't usually think of sexual stuff right away. I might stare at her breasts or her in general, but I'm not consciously thinking of sex. If I put an effort into thinking of sex I might get aroused. I still don't know if this is sexual attraction or not. I do get these feelings for girls I don't know at all, so I doubt this is just "romantic". Link to post Share on other sites
Heart Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 This thread has been locked for necromancy. It's an old thread, and the OP has probably gotten what they need. If you would like to continue discussion on the subject, please feel free to start a new thread! Heart Asexual Q&A Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
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