LaLunaVerde Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Hello lovely asexies. I have been away for a couple of months, doing some...self-searching, self-exploring, etc, etc. And I have realized something: those people who told me "you're just a repressed lesbian" were really quite right. Growing up in a crazy right-wing evangelical Christian family made even thinking that I might like women out of the question. Of course, I was quite repulsed by the idea of being with a man, although as long as there was no sex or kissing with tongues involved, a romantic relationship with a man was conceivable...which led me to AVEN. It seemed to describe me. I jumped into the community and feel in love. And, while here, I learned a lot about myself. I had to think about my own experiences of attraction...I made a radar chart. I realized that...actually, the thought of sex with a woman wasn't repulsing the same way sex with a man was--though I didn't actually desire it. I realized that, yeah...I was romantically attracted to women. So, I took on the label "bi-romantic asexual." It fit. But, a lot has happened in the past few months. I've been forced to think about a lot and deal with a lot. And I've realized that yeah, I am a lesbian--not a sex-crazed, nymphomaniac lesbian, but still a lesbian who experiences sexual attraction. It's taken a lot for me to get here, and AVEN was an important part of that process. I love this community. Thanks for everything. =) As I continue to figure out who the heck I am and such things, I will continue to stand with you all and work for visibility with you. I'll hang around, if that's alright with you all (I know it will be =) ). While my hiatus was necessary for self-discovery and self-exploration, I can't imagine permanently leaving this community. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest the_random_squirrel Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 ^_^ i'm glad you've finally discovered who you are! congratulations and are in order! Good to hear you're not just going to abandon us, and it'll be good to have you back on the board. Do you know, your posts were some of the first i read when i found AVEN and they convinced me to join. ^_^ so thank you. and the best of luck with everything :cake: Link to post Share on other sites
Nalle Neversure Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 Congrats for finding yourself. And nice to hear you're sticking around. :D :D I like your posts (and av ;)). Link to post Share on other sites
ghosts Posted July 14, 2008 Share Posted July 14, 2008 NO YOU MUST LEAVE. Of course it's ok. ;) Good for you on your self-discovery! Link to post Share on other sites
emmarainbow Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Have some nummy . Good for you. :) Link to post Share on other sites
In_Omnia_Paratus Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Thats fantastic :D, though I don't know you I am really happy you could learn to understand your own self. I hope to get there eventually :P major congrats, though no cake because I'm sure you will get enough of that. how about a ninja? Link to post Share on other sites
Dame du Lac Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Congratulations on working things out! More for the journey. You know you're not actually allowed to leave AVEN don't you? Link to post Share on other sites
Næt. Posted July 15, 2008 Share Posted July 15, 2008 Congratulations on working things out! More for the journey.You know you're not actually allowed to leave AVEN don't you? mhmm. It's like the Matrix, only purple instead of green. Link to post Share on other sites
DaniTheGirl Posted July 16, 2008 Share Posted July 16, 2008 HEY!!! I'm glad to see you back, and many congratulations are in order. Self-discovery is a beautiful thing. (So are women. much more beautiful than men) I hope you continue to pepper the forums with your interesting and insightful posts...I always enjoyed reading what you have to say. :cake: xDani Link to post Share on other sites
Nugatory Posted July 19, 2008 Share Posted July 19, 2008 congratulations. Link to post Share on other sites
Ame Posted July 20, 2008 Share Posted July 20, 2008 Hey, congrats! That's remarkably similar to how I am. When I consider sex with a man, I'm seriously repulsed to the point where I almost get sick to my stomach thinking about it, but were I with a woman, I'd be willing to have sex with her for her benefit. I would never do that with a man. I'm still questioning where that leaves me. But congrats for finding yourself, I hope it works out for me as well ^_^ CAKE FOR ALL! :cake: :cake: :cake: :cake: :cake: Link to post Share on other sites
renaeden Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 It is good to see you back. You commented on a post on my blog telling me about AVEN. So I am here! Thank you. :) Link to post Share on other sites
Ten Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 That's awesome! :D Link to post Share on other sites
Shinnok Posted July 22, 2008 Share Posted July 22, 2008 That's cool you're figuring yourself out and all. It's always nice to know who you're attracted to and everything. AVEN is such a wonderful place to discuss topics freely :D Link to post Share on other sites
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