If you were to have a baby and you can't resist the urge though you're asexual

[R_1]

Not really considering one, but here's a hypothetical situation.

You're in a scenario where you have to reproduce through the natural method and as for males, your woman will refuse to abort it or anything while you're stuck with them. What would you do?

[Guest]

Not really considering one, but here's a hypothetical situation.

You're in a scenario where you have to reproduce through the natural method and as for males, your woman will refuse to abort it or anything while you're stuck with them. What would you do?

If you had to reproduce, why would abortion even come up? Wouldn't that be the opposite of reproducing?

[R_1]

Was thinking reproducing as in the process of doing it, but disregard abortion then.

[MinusCelsius]

How would I be "stuck" with a person?

[R_1]

As in stuck being with her/him during pregnancy.

[Alan Degas]

Resist the urge to what? To have a baby, or to have sex?

[SorryNotSorry]

Not really considering one, but here's a hypothetical situation.

You're in a scenario where you have to reproduce through the natural method and as for males, your woman will refuse to abort it or anything while you're stuck with them. What would you do?

I'd give the kid all sorts of dangerous toys that I was never allowed to have!!! :twisted: Hopefully my woman would get the message (unless she was just as juvy-delinquent at heart as I am).

[MinusCelsius]

As in stuck being with her/him during pregnancy.

Yeah, but what would keep me from breaking up? Because that's what I would do. They can have the baby and do whatever they want, but that's none of my business.

[R_1]

Resist the urge to what? To have a baby, or to have sex?

Having a baby throughout natural means.

[Guest]

Moved to Asexual Musings and Rantings.

Strivna

Asexual Q&A Moderator

[Murmur]

Call CHS as soon as possible and give the kid a good home. Why would I ever want to catch pregnant? Just for the sake of this thread?

[test account]

I still don't understand the question :(

[Alan Degas]

So are you asking if an asexual would be willing to have sex to produce a child? I'm sure you'll find that answer to be yes.

... I'm pretty sure I still don't get it

[Benny@oz]

you have an amazing child like mine just get rid of the crazy mum and keep the kid safe

[MinusCelsius]

Resist the urge to what? To have a baby, or to have sex?

Having a baby throughout natural means.

Then I echo "not understanding the question". I can't imagine what it is like to have the urge to reproduce, and even less how I wouldn't be able to resist it.

[Nobilis]

I wouldn't want to get pregnant because I don't like sex. Once I have reach a stable income and house, then I will consider adoption.

Until then...no. Not getting pregnant no matter what.

[Pandora's Fox]

I would refuse.

[RandomDent]

I think what Rept is referring to is the natural desire to have a child. Many people (more commonly female-bodied, because ovaries hate us) have an intrinsic desperate urge to have a child naturally. It's why many people will risk their health, their life, their relationships and all their finances on IVF and so on. It's something that's very difficult to convey unless you've experienced it, a bit like sexual attraction.

Now, quite a few asexual people have felt this urge, and have gone through with sex to have a child. Whether or not they were that repulsed with sex to begin with, you'd have to ask them.

But I think that's what Rept is asking and my answer is, most of us can't answer that until we've had that urge. The only people who can really answer it, are the ones who have done it or are planning to do it.

Personally, I don't want children at all, but I think if I ever got the urge, and it's as bad as my sister describes it, I probably would put up with sex/pregnancy/etc.

[test account]

Oh well if we're talking about getting pregnant, I'll be straight up and say I always used to think pregnancy was like being parasitized by an alien creature. In my later years, I feel pervy about it, like I'd get sexually aroused by being pregnant. But whatever. I don't think I care for it otherwise. I've never really wanted children, and I only get angsty about it when I think of all those eggs going to waste every month, which won't be there forever. I've thought about getting pregnant just so I haven't wasted all of them, and I suppose I could donate them, but somehow that's not the same. I feel like I'm being irresponsible with my eggs, and I should at least grow one of them, like a decent woman. Then I'd have respect for myself. But I don't' think it's going to happen. After all, those eggs turn into people with needs, and I'd be a rotten mother.

[5_♦♣]

What's with the baby threads lately?

[chelseagirl84]

Sure, of course, I would do it. Having children is probably the only reason I would have sex. I would have to be married and financially stable first. However, I would have to carefully plan out my pregnancy because of my seizure disorder (my neurologist and seizure specialist would have to monitor my levels of medication). I adore children, and I have maternal instinct (whenever I'm out in public, and a little one takes off, I chase them down and get them back to their parents, and if I hear a baby crying, I have the urge to pick them up and rock them).

[RandomDent]

What's with the baby threads lately?

I don't know, but personally it's a refreshing change from masturbation threads :lol:

[MinusCelsius]

What's with the baby threads lately?

I don't know, but personally it's a refreshing change from masturbation threads :lol:

Yeah, if this trend continues, we might get threads about something not too icky in the near future.

[Awkward Turtle]

I feel like this is a similar question to "what do lesbians do if they want to have a baby but they don't want to do it the natural way?" The situation is similar for an ace in that they are not at all attracted to the person who could get them pregnant. Could both groups of people still theoretically have sex to make a baby happen? Sure.

I'm not totally clear on what the question is here, since there are other ways of having children/becoming pregnant that are available to same-sex partners and asexuals...

[Seele]

I'm going to take this as if the person is asking if they would ignore the urge to have the child, or have one even though they are asexual.

Technically there are other ways to have a kid aside from sex, but if that is the only means then I would have sex to have a child. I'm 25 and honestly I've felt the mother urge. It hit me around 23 and I want kids. That said even though I'm repulsed by sex and could die happy having never had sex (because aside from reproduction by natural means I see no need for sex. It's useless and boring, which is neither here nor there but my opinions) I will do so one day when I married because I want kids.

[DexM]

Also a little unsure,but will take the lead from Seele and others.

Before I knew I was Asexual I just thought I was really weird as I liked the idea of having kids,for some reason the little popetts seem to like me and I sometimes feel more comfortable around kids than adults,but the whole baby making process, well you probably kinda know what I'm going to say.I didn't have the internet so didn't know anything of the Asexual world.I wished for the old stalk to come along and give me a boy/girl aged five.

I'm a dyed in the wool Aromantic.I accept I may never find anyone,but if I did,they would have to be pretty special for the whole act thing to happen.And even then,there is absoulutley NO WAY I could ever put that person through so much pain.The most natural thing in the world,of course and an end result,definitly.But I can't watch programmes/films or read about birth scenes.Sorry but it really up sets me.And couldn't see someone in so much pain.

Plus I'm too bloody old now anyway.